I have a partner aged 53 and a 14 yr old step son who does not live with us but has set days of Tues and Sat. Partner has hugh guilt issue over the fact that he has a son from a failed relationship and is overly obsessive about his son. SS mum is overly possesive too and I see a tug of war over who does most/is best parent etc etc.
Since we have been together I have improved my partners relationship with his son ten fold. Together we do more than partner and my ss have ever done and I am a strong rod for my partner.
Last night ss had his MMR jab at the drs. SS is very soft and faints if he hurts himself ie: bang on head, trapped finger in car door, nick on ear at barbers,I think alot of it is attention seeking maybe from when he was younger but has continued into his teens...So both parents took him to the docs for the injection which I said was unnecessary at 14 and they should try to stop treating him as if he was 7, I said one parent is enough for the support ss needs, but neither parent would allow him to go with the other. Anyway over an hour and half later they came home. SS was fine although he had fainted/had fit as per usual when he saw the needle. When I asked why they had been so long partner said "they" (all 3 of them) had been to my partners mum and dads for cup of tea. I was absolutely furious and said I'm waiting at home for you two worried that ss is ok and you are playing happy families....how hurtful is that? Ex partner yanks his chain all the time over their son,what she says goes and I have held my partner when he has cried over something she has done and talked for hours when he is down...He just shouted and said it was all about (son) and I had to deal with it. I am a parent of a lovely successful 22 year old daughter who also unfortunately came from a failed marriage but we handled everything well and I feel that I do have the right to express my opinion. But my partners obsession is ruining us.
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Jaq64 · 08/05/2013 11:04
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