Aagh toilet habits of teenage sc..

[taxiforme]

My OCD has gone into overdrive.
Wtf?? I come into the bathroom, reach for the bath mat which is where it always is, to find the contents of someone's bowels splidged all over it..
Having spoken to dh (sc had departed for school) to make sure they were ok (he didn't know anything about it or if one of them had been ill) I have set about cleaning.

My dsc are 17 dsd 15 dsd and nearly 13 dss.

Added to this is last week a blocked loo (dsd2 announced she had not had a poo all week) picking up used sanitary towels from the FLOOR of the downstairs loo..at least twice a visit one of them will "forget to flush" or leave the loo in such a state it's like.... Oh god..slurry. What do they eat ffs? Loo rolls just kicked across the floor , puddles where dss has missed...

I should have known what I was letting myself in for on the day before I married dh.. He announced that dsd2 had (at 12) threadworms and we all had to be treated..oh here comes the bride with a bridesmaid itching her bum.

Rant over. I feel sick. Back to the rubbers. Tell me I am not going mad but at their age??? If anyone comes to the house and asks to use the loo I am like wild eyed "toilet check in process..stand back"

I don't have kids, but I think I remember at 15 I knew to keep the loo sweet n fresh?

[KarmaBitch]

Personally I think a 15 and 17 year old should know to be binning their sanitary towels. I find that rather disgusting so can understand why you may be in OCD overdrive. That aside at their ages they should understand about toilet manners. Even my 5-year-old DD knows to flush and wash her hands afterwards.

[Jan45]

That is rank and there is no need, total disrepespect for others in the house, you need to give it to them straight, don't tolerate that.

[SchroSawMargeryDaw]

That is disgusting and at 15 or 17 (I'm only 22) I wouldn't have known anyone who thought that was normal or okay.

[WeAreEternal]

A friend of mine is constantly telling me about her three DDs.
They are 18, 16 & 14.

She says they rarely remember to flush and she often finds used sanitary towels on top the radiator next to the toilet, also used tampons, which are sometimes, but not always, just wrapped in loo roll and left. She also complains about dirty underwear left on the floor in the bathroom, make up spilled everywhere and just general dirtiness left in the bathroom by her teens.

We never behaved like that but apparently it's not uncommon.
It's still disgusting and unacceptable though.

[Jan45]

I've never heard the likes! It's total disrespect for others and a complete case of apathy.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I would issue one warning, and after that, any soiled bathmats/used sanitary products/dirty underwear, plus any cloths I had to use to mop up misdirected wee puddles, would end up in their beds.

[taxiforme]

Oh lord thank you!! I am not Margo or the baroness sort of step mother after all. It is rank, isn't it? I am glad to hear that others have the same problems. Dh is rabbit in headlights about it.. " no, you speak to them.." It needs to come from him! He is their dad.

I now need to try an tackle dsd2's clothes. She thinks its ok to go out to a christening in a top with a big (curry? Pasta sauce?) stain down the front.

I think it all smacks of lack of respect for me AND themselves.

[landofsoapandglory]

Christ on a bike!. I have two boys (16&18) they always flush the loo, use the brush if they need to, replace the toilet roll and leave the bathroom in a manner in which they would want to find it!

[catsmother]

Someone has got to speak to them, tactfully at first but if they carry on after being asked to be more considerate, never mind hygenic then I'd bloody well shame them into sorting it out. As in, calling them all into the bathroom and demanding to know who left the loo in that state and why they think it's acceptable to do so.

A few years ago, we went through a spate of always finding skid marks on towels. Only ever when the stepkids were here. Clearly they'd not been washing thoroughly when showering and then drying themselves while still dirty. Yuck. We had quiet words but it still carried on and I began to make a point of announcing that I'd found dirty towels again in a loud voice to everyone because it was lazy and disgusting. We're talking young teens at the time so not too old to be more careful. Thankfully it did stop after a while because it soon became clear each time who was the culprit as I'd make my announcement immediately after they'd used the bathroom and although I didn't go so far as naming names it was still embarrassing.

Why the heck their mum didn't guide them about that sort of stuff though I don't know ?!

[Xalla]

My DSD doesn't flush and that irritates me but she's only 7! I'm pretty certain that is she was still doing it at 17 I'd have seriously lost my patience. That is inexplicable and unforgiveable imo.

What does your DH say. My son's 4 and we use a reward chart / marble jar to encourage behaviours such as not spraying the bathroom. I don't know how reward charts and the like translate into the teenage years (slashing pocket money??) but I'm sure others MN can advise.

You have my absoulte sympathy!

[Stepmooster]

My DSS who is now 11 has started to be really disgusting like this. Dirty bits of toilet paper on the floor, poo all over the seat. He didn't used to be like this. Is it hormones? Next time it happens I am just going to shout out, "Who left poo all over the bathroom? And can they clean it up now, otherwise I am not cooking dinner!" I hope that would make DSS clean it up. But I suspect the resident disney dad will do it for him.

I already send him off to the sink to wash his hands after he's been to the bathroom, as you can hear if the sink has been used. I have to ask him to brush his teeth twice a day as well. DH wouldn't even bother to ask, but I have a 9 month old and we are trying to teach her about brushing teeth etc and I don't want her learning bad habits from her big brother!

[Stepmooster]

I think this also extends into adulthood for some. I remember house sharing at univeristy and one of my male friends was ok, but his mates were downright disgusting. There always used to be a puddle on the floor, and I would get the bathroom cleaner and a load of toilet paper, stand in front of Xbox/playstation and hand it to the offender and not so politely say,"If you can't pee like a man, then either sit down like a girl or wipe up what you leave behind."

I would not move until someone cleaned it up. I am not a skivvy, and I refuse to be one now. I know children have to learn, but if they've already mastered the skill once and then decide to regress in teenage years, then I think it's justified to make them aware of how we are not put on this earth to little wipe their bottoms for them.

[RightUpMyRue]

By their ages they should know better. Someone needs to explain to them it's not OK to behave like this and if they don't have a bit more respect there'll be consequences.

Do you own a camera?

Do they have facebook accounts?

There's the consequences. You'll be sharing the evidence of how rank they are with their entire social network.

[fengirl1]

As dh won't deal with it, you will have to... Sit them all down, dh included, and outline the problems. Make it clear it can't carry on and offer to show anyone who is unsure how to clean the loo. Also state that anyone who leaves used sanitary towels or tampons lying around will find them waiting for them on their pillow....

[taxiforme]

Right, thanks all. I have tried subtle in the past but the poo fest stops now! Though I would draw the line at shaming them of fb..

[brdgrl]

It is rank. DSD used not to bin her sanitary towels, but she eventually did start doing so, around the time she turned 16.

Just the other day i had to take DH into the laundry room and show him what has been happening with DSS's laundry for the last few months...and beg him to explain to DSS that he really needs to find something else to clean up after a wank, other than a t-shirt. ick!!!

[theredhen]

I've got two teen dsd and they would never behave like this!

My ds also knows if he can't pee standing up without making a mess, then he needs to sit down!

Don't put up with it, it's not acceptable.

[taxiforme]

That made me lol br!! Classic. Still got that to cum..

[MrsTomHardy]

I feel your pain slightly....have 3 boys 11,14 and very nearly 16 and none of them ever flush the toilet!!!!
It riles me completely but apparently they all flush it.....

And don't mention wee on the loo seat or floor

[Booyhoo]

eugh!

disgusting. they have no manners at all to leave a bathroom in that state.

i would be having a family meeting and i would shame them all by saying exactly what i found. they should all be old enough to tidy up teh room after they've been in it. my 3 year old knows to wipe the seat and rim after he has peed FGS!

[Petal02]

My DSS used to poo in the bath, til he was around 15. Disney DH used to suggest that maybe the poor lamb got caught short and couldn't get to the loo in time. But the bath is approx one foot away from the toilet, I just couldn't accept that as an excuse. I bet he never did that at his mothers. But DH's babying of him used to make him regress in literally all areas.

[Booyhoo]

"Why the heck their mum didn't guide them about that sort of stuff though I don't know "

and their dad!

[Yonihadtoask]

No. Not good enough.

I have two DSSs and a DS. All similar ages. They know the rules in this house re toilets. In fact, they have to sit to pee. Sounds cruel, but I am not cleaning up piss sprays from the walls

You have to be firm - it is for their own good. What if they go to a friend's house and mess up their bathroom. Or on a school residential trip.