was going to namechange for this but ...
Before I was married and had my ds I was adament that I would never get involved with someone who had kids. It just seemed like a complete nightmare to me, although obviously at that point I had no dc of my own so didn't have that maternal thing iyswim.
Now I have a ds who is ten, and me and h separated in July last year. I am by no means even in the market for dating let alone getting into any kind of relationship, but sometimes I see posts on here from step parents and the issues they have being a blended/step/(whatever the correct term is) family and I think that maybe my resolve to never get involved with someone with kids hasn't actually changed.
But then the alternative is to only get involved with someone who doesn't have kids, who in turn wouldn't have a clue, and wouldn't that make me a hipocrit?
I'm not even sure this is the right place for this, but perhaps I am less likely to get a pasting here than on say ibu or chat...
So - did you ever think about it? and if you knew then what you know now, would you have thought differently?
And just to clarify, I'm not suggesting for a minute that anyone regrets the situation they're in at the moment, just whether or not with hindsight they may have made different decisions...
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honest and possibly sensitive question, but, if you knew then what you know now, would you have got involved with someone who had kids?
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wannaBe · 05/04/2013 17:57
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