Hiya,
You seem a friendly bunch and after lurking for a bit I could really use some advise - promise to keep it short and sweet.
I've been a step parent to my dp little boy since he was born ( he's now two) - dp Ex got pregnant in an attempt to save their relationship and we got together when she was 6 months pregnant, so I've always known what I've been getting in to.
DP and I have a fab relationship, getting married in two months time. I generally cope ok with my dss, gone through what a lot of people on here seem to have, jealously and generally still trying to find my place as a step parent, but over the past two years, spending time with dss has ignited my desire to be a parent. I've tried to explain to dp that I can either be the best step mum that I can but with that comes a desire to have my own, or I can detatch myself and try to quash my desire for a baby.
I had thought that we were going to start trying for our own baby later this year but during a conversation we had today Dp admitted that he would like some more time just to do things together first.
I can appreciate what he says, he sees his ds twice a week and so in the grand scheme of things we can act like a childless couple and go on holidays where we want etc.
But when we have dss my dp dotes on him, occassionally verging on to disney dad teritory and I can't understand if he loves his ds that much why he wouldn't want another one.
In my head another year before we start trying is fine, but I'm starting to find it unbearable spending time with my dss, talking him to soft playareas and doing everything I wish I was doing with my own child.
Hope this makes sense and I haven't rambled too much!!
Any advice would be appreciated feel like I'm losing the plot.
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s1eepychaos · 29/03/2013 22:33
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