We are estranged from one of DH's (grown up) kids. My husband has supported me throughout because, it was a silly incident which has brought about two years of vitriol. He tries to keep in touch with her but it's mostly ignored.
My problem is this : I've now reached the stage where, when I think of her or worse, see her briefly in town, I feel uncontrollably anxious. My pulse races, my heart's thumping in my chest and I'm incapable of speech. Afterward, I feel exhausted. It's daft. I have a responsible job. I'm not depressed. I have close friends who wouldn't believe this of me (though I haven't told anyone). A month ago, we saw her unexpectedly. She spoke to DH but ignored me which I've become used to. It rarely happens but, having greeted her with a smile and cheery hello since the original incident years ago, I am now totally ignored so I just kind of stand there and try to be "not there" IYKWIM. DH is upset by her behaviour and very disappointed as it's just endless. His other three are lovely with me.
Am I going mad? And if I have this ludicrous reaction, physical reaction to her, how in hell am I ever going to have any relationship with her in future. All I wanted was for us all to get on. DH and I (separately) both had horrendous divorces behind us when we met and we are now so happy, in every other way. I have no idea what to do. And no, I haven't told DH. He thinks the only problem is that hid daughter needs to mature and all will be fine. I think he'd leave me if he knew I was so upset about all this to the point where I'm actually having a stress reaction.
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HillsAndDales · 14/03/2013 14:36
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