I really don't know how involved I should be with parenting DSD.
She was ill during the night earlier this week and I pretty much let DP get on with sorting her out as I thought she'd probably just want daddy when she was feeling poorly. You just want mum or dad when you're feeling shit don't you? I saw him on the landing and asked if he needed any help but he said no. So I kind of just stayed out of the way, got showered and dressed in the morning and then quietly left while she was dozing in the morning.
Anyway DP said he was disappointed I didn't show more sympathy to DSD. He thinks I should've been in to check on her before I left. He said he wants DSD to see me as a mother figure. But that doesn't sit very comfortably with me because she already has a mum. I feel like I need to protect myself a little bit because if DP and I ever broke up I'd have no right to see DSD or anything so I feel scared to love her too much.
Anyway he's also asked me to stay in and look after DSD while he does a sport event in the past and I said no. When I work from home and it's his contact night he always asks me if I can pick up DSD from school (basically knocking 2.5 hours off my working day). So I say no to that too. But I think he feld disappointed that I say no to these things. Like I'm not being motherly enough or see looking after DSD on my own as a chore.
I'm really not sure what a reasonable amount of involvement is. Am I U for not doing the school run?
If DP wants to go out on his contact nights should I be the one to look after DSD.
Sorry if these sound like stupid questions but I'm still feeling my way round this step parenting thing.
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What is expected of me vs what's fair? Advice please.
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madonnawhore · 01/03/2013 15:28
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