My partner has recently been given residence of children after a long and difficult battle which I supported. They are difficult sometimes but I understand that this is due to some of the unfortunate experiences with mum. I get along fine, they are very affectionate to me and vice versa. I have no kids so have had to get used to lots of things, plus I work away Monday to Friday. I feel bad enough not being there more for him but he copes well. I manage lots of the practical organising family stuff from a distance. My issue is co sleeping on the one hand I feel that they need their dad more than ever and want to give them that space with him, but it also means that sometimes I spend both nights we have together alone as I get pushed ( not on purpose) out of bed. Tonight after a difficult week and all day decorating and cleaning with partner for the kids I am alone in a spare room for the second night of the weekend. I go back to the city Sunday night and that's it. I feel Lonely sometimes in a busy house and I know my partner is trying but with this sudden change and a 7 and 8 year old having gone through so much, how can I complain. He's seen how I feel apologises and sometimes even the girls do but they can't seem to sleep alone many nights and I spend all week alone and now practically weekend nights. I feel so selfish saying this but I've been in tears for an hour. We have no time together and keep talking it through but it still does not stop me feeling like this sometimes. i think they need to go to their own beds really but I'm aware of my own bias Has anyone else coped with this?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Connect with other Mumsnetters here for step-parenting advice and support.
Step-parenting
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.