I've been with dh for 4 yrs and during that time we got married and had a little ds together. Which is the lovely part of our relationship. The not so lovely part is dh's ex partner. Dh has children with her and his previous step children, whom he is also dad to. The door has always been open to them and
although I can't say it's easy at times mostly we manage. Dss came to live with us 3 yrs ago as ex part couldn't cope with him. So he is difficult challenging but he
lives with us and sees his mum alternate weekends.
Dhs other biological dd still lives with her mum along with her half sisters and now another new brother. Dsd really is no bother at all in comparison to her brother. So we find it strange some of the things that go on. Dsd and my dd get on very well and share a room when in our house. Only a year apart, which us nice for my dd as she lives in a house full of brothers.
The problem is we think dsd is being a bit neglected with her mum. Although she does seem to have some expensive clothes (labelled ones) I would say 50% of the weekends she's come over she's been riddled with nits. Now that's fine to an extent as dh and I just comb through with nitty gritty and conditioner and alleviate the itch, but if course because they can sometimes be hopping mad the whole house has to be done. When it's so obvious, I don't know why her mother doesn't get on top of it. Poor dsd (who actually doesn't make a fuss) must be so uncomfortable. Dsd is now 12 and she says mums too busy and she does it herself. There are other things that concern us too. But this to be honest is really getting us down. Poor dsd it's not fair on her. If ex is questioned or reminded she just blows up at us. None of our business etc. We think the important things are being neglected but don't know what to do?
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sadsong · 11/02/2013 08:00
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