Hi
I have 3 young DCs (3,5,7) and my partner has 2 older DCs. He is spending more time with us in my home, with a view to moving in. He has always been supportive, and says he loves my DCs too. I have struggled at times, having been a single Mum, who left an abusive relationship several years ago, and I'm fraught with guilt that I took the DCs from their Dad, even though it was the right thing to do. The DCs still have regular contact with their Dad. My eldest seemed to have anxiety issues, and struggles at bedtime, has doner since a baby, and I think it was due to what he witnessed as a small child when I was married.
Anyway, fast forward several years and after a lot of hard work, I have now got them into a good bedtime regime etc, but my partner questions the fact that although DS1 in bed, he can still be awake after 9 at night. I'm happy that he's in his own bed, and settled. We rowed about this last night. He claims I treat my eldest differently, and I probably do.
My partner has also started disciplining the DCs, and backs me up when I do, but at times, I think he is too strict.
So I tried to talk to him last night about expectations and boundaries.
He doesn't help through the night, or get up in the mornings, with them.
I guess I just want to know what is the usual form of partners role, what should I expect, and am I expecting too much. Given the fact he wants to move in, I think his role should be as equal as mine, but maybe thats wrong.
Please help me muddle through this!
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Partner and role with my DCs, some difficulties, please advice!
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RedRosy · 06/02/2013 08:59
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