Background:
DP and I have been together nearly 7 years. DSD was just 3 when we got together, now 10.
DD is 5 1/2. DSD and DD have no other siblings. They are very, very close.
DD has developed issues over being regularly separated from her sister. She cannot understand why she sees her so little (EOW/ 1/2 holidays) She counts the days until she sees her again. When DSD leaves on Monday mornings it's not uncommon for DD to have a meltdown. On Monday for example I got a call from school that DD was very distressed, had locked herself in the toilets screaming and crying. I had to go get her screaming and crying from the school, bring her home, calm her down and talk to her. Eventually she said it was because she wanted DSD and me.
DSD's mother has done really disruptive, horrid things they worst of which was to make false allegations against DP. This resulted in DSD and DD not seeing each other for 4 months. It also resulted in police and social services trampling through our lives, around 10 family court sessions over 6 months. It made both me and DP ill also. I was off work for 6 months with stress and DP 5 months.
I have always done everything possible to promote the sisters relationship whereas DSD's mother clearly does not value the close relationship they have.
Recently DSD was in tears telling DP that her mother was planning to move away when she went to secondary school.
I feel Im facilitating and observing a slow motion tragedy. I have been thinking what have I done to promote this close relationship when DSD's mother doesnt give a toss about it.
Both of the girls are being hurt and there's not a damn thing I can do to stop it.
I cant see anyone to help them. The courts dont give rats ass about half siblings. When we were last in family court 2 1/2 year old DD was barely on their radar. They didnt give a shit about her crying for her sister, they ddnt give a shit DSD even had a sister.
I dont know why Im writing this, I just feel really really sad and helpless.
Any words of wisdom? please
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ElenorRigby · 05/02/2013 15:39
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