Background I was with EX-DP for 10 yrs, he has 2 DC from previous marriage, we have 1 bio DD and special guardianship 4 DC, ex-DP had a one night stand which resulted in another DC. Ex DP and I split but have come to a good place of communication and we are working well re parenting,
I know his exact earnings and out goings, He pays ex wife £250 per week [£50 per child, £100 to exwife and £50 arrears through mistake in court order] He pays £50 per week for DC from affair leaving him with £120, his rent is £80 per week. so for everything else he has £40, So I receive nothing.
Last thur I paid with his money the other mothers [bank lodgement] I bought him some groceries [with my cash] and he has our DC in my hse when I work [food and heat and normality]
SO today DSD 18 yro arrived from college at my hse asking could she stay for dinner I said of course [she has a key] after dinner she asked to talk to me and told me that her DMum had said she received no money and would not give her cash for college. DSD has no money for food etc [£ 10.87 is all she has] she said her Ddad also refused her money I have given her food for tomorrow and said I will talk to her then.
I have spoken to DP he has no cash to give her, I know this is true, he has had a go at ex wife as she has an educational fund for DSC but it appears she has spent it and even if he had cash he would not hand it over as the cash should be there. Problem is I have an 18 yro DSD crying and with out food/cash.
WWYD give her cash I could stretch to £50 but also DSD works 2 nights a week but spends it on nights getting drunk but I cannot see her hungry surely after 10 yrs of family I should still step up and parent as I used to or do I step back
I am worried and
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canyou · 07/01/2013 19:55
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