I'd appreciate your advice, even though it seems like a fairly trivial question. My DSD is 13 and comes to stay with us every other weekend. We live just over an hour's drive away from her mum's house, and from where her friends are.
I feel it is important for her to be able to see her friends, and I have encouraged friends to come and stay over when she is with us (something which my DP had never arranged before I came on the scene).
Now that we've had her friends over a few times, they've stayed over and it's all gone really well, the natural consequence is that she is being invited back to spend time at their houses. If she lived with us all the time, I would see no complication, but as it is, I find that I would prefer her to stay at her friends' houses on the weekends when we don't have her. As we only have her for two nights out of every 14, our time with her is too precious to give up!
Is it OK for me to ask her friends' parents to let their children continue coming to stay with us, without me returning the favour, as it were? Or should I treat her as though she lives here all the time, and arrange for her to spend a day or night at her friends' hosues every so often?
I fear that I am answering my own question, and that this is all part of the process of letting go and allowing her to be independent. I also realise that I can answer this question by asking the one person who can tell me what she would prefer - DSD! But your views and any experiences would be good to hear.
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TheresAHuppoInMyHouse · 29/11/2012 20:51
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