arghhhhh
a couple of months ago I stupidly got DSD (age 17) a contract phone as its been hard to get her to keep in contact due to lack of credit and she is very naiive when it comes to living in a city (she moved in with us last sept to go to college from a hamlet where she lived with her mum). She's generally a good girl, very quiet but also very lazy (DH's words) and very selfish (again DH's words)... we have been nagging her to get a job all year but she claims she doesn't have time between college (3 half days) and her boyfriend (another lazy sod without a job) and she doesn't even try - I give her 2-5 leads a week from around town and my own contacts...
anyway, last week I noticed she only had 13 mins talk time left until tomorrow when it re-sets and so told her not to use it to call except for emergencies.... she has blatently ignored me!
I looked online today to see how much the bill would be tomorrow and in 1 week she has wracked up £200.24 of calls!!! all to one number, her boyfriend.
she gets in from seeing him at 9pm (lives the other side of town), has dinner and then says she is tired and is going to bed at about 10. It would appear she then calls him. On halloween night she called him for 20 mins, then had a 5 min break, then another hour+, then a break and then another 45 mins... that day alone cost £76.31!!!
I am furious! We are so skint and she knows this, we have had family meetings about cutting back on electricity/water/food because we are skint and yet she does something so selfish and stupid as this!
She has no money (I give her pocket money £15 a month) because she won't get a job and so cannot pay this back at the moment but I have told her she is to be home by 5pm today and must spend this afternoon alone (ie without boyfriend) looking for a job with a plan of how to pay for this....
WWYD? The contract is only 2-3 months old and it will have a huge get out fee and so ending it won't be an option and as long as she keeps within the limits I don't mind paying for that but I cannot and will not pay these charges for her. I have told her that from now on her phone stays in the lounge after 10pm and she has to earn back the trust but what other sanctions/punishments would you guys use?
It has really upset me as I am normally her advocate and encourage DH to let her be more of a young adult but to be honest she does seem to act and think more like a 13-14 year old due to her sheltered life with her mum....
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arghhhh £200+ phone bill in 1 week - wwyd??
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newyearnewattitude · 02/11/2012 13:56
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