I had some fab advice from here before my baby came along so I'm hoping for some more now...
My DD is 16 weeks old. Lovely little baby, was sleeping very well but had a bit of a perfect storm of growth spurt/minor illness/teething beginning and is now waking up 4 times a night. We're doing ok, bit tired, obviously. Trying very hard to get her into a good napping routing because there is a massive difference in her night sleeping when she has napped well in the day. Aiming for a nap in the cot in the morning and one in the afternoon, or in the sling if we're out. Other naps are taken in her baby rocking chair/bouncer thing. This has been working quite well, mostly. I've been trying to get her used to some noise while she's having her naps, this has had a bit of setback when the teething started for some reason, she's much more easily woken.
My DSD (8) and DSS (11) arrived the day before yesterday to stay for Easter break, they're here for about a week and a half. All good, they love their little sister and she totally adores them - the giggles we got this morning at them were wonderful. Problem is, now I can't put her down to nap in the bouncer because they're around making noise, so I'm stuck in the bedroom trying to get her to nap in the cot the whole time. And that's not working too well either as she can hear them and they are banging around. They are trying hard not to, baby elephant DSS is really making an effort to go up and down stairs quietly, DSD is toning down her very loud singing, but of course they make a noise, they're kids, and it doesn't seem terribly fair to be asking them to keep quiet the whole time either, this is their house and they should be able to have fun in it.
But I'm tired because she's not napping and is grizzling, DSD is in her face quite a lot even though we've asked her not to when we're trying to wind her down for a nap, and I'm starting to feel resentful and cross. I really don't want to be, I don't want them to feel pushed out by the baby or to spoil our good relationship, but I just don't quite know what to do. DP has taken DSD to the park on her bike with baby in the pushchair in the hope she'll drop off, and I've shut myself in my room for a little while with the laptop while DSS is on the computer.
I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for here. I think the problem is that I know this isn't just the weekend so it's not just a couple of days of bad sleep and then back to normal, it's 10 days, by which time I might have gone totally nuts. I don't want to feel resentful towards them, they're lovely. Help.
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Struggling with my baby and stepchildren over Easter - please help!
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everybodysang · 17/04/2011 13:51
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