Hi all
I'd like some advice from other stepparents who probably have a better understanding of what its like rather than from well meaning people who just think they understand but have no experience of the complexities of being a stepparent.
Situation is this. I have 2 DC's (DD14 & DS9) and been living with my OH and DSS(4) for nearly 18 months.
My sister is getting married at the end of this month and my gran has decided to buy all my other sisters (i have a fairly big family) a really expensive necklace each. Fair enough. Then my gran asked if I'd mind if she got one for my daughter too. I thought that was a lovely gesture as she's not many years left and its something DD could remember her great-gran by. All good so far.
Anyway, last night she calls to ask what she could get my DS since she's just realised that he could feel left out. At first I was like Oh he doesn't really need anything. But she's quite insistent and said well she'd just give him money then.
That's fine I guess and its nice she's thinking of him. Except of course now I'm worrying about DSS. He doesn't see his dad, I'm the only dad he knows.
Obviously I want them to be all treated equally but at the same time it would be unfair to ask my gran to spend money on a child who is unrelated (in her mind) and its not like we've been together for years either.
OH & I spoke last night and I suggested that I would treat him separately if gran doesn't get DSS anything. Luckily OH is pretty understanding and I guess I'm a bit sensitive given my exGF would have gone NUTS and it would have been a few days of arguing.
Am I being sensitive? How do other stepfamilies cope with present situations involving extended families?
Thanks for reading this rather long post! lol
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Niceguy2 · 12/04/2011 10:17
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