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Any advice for our family holiday/relationship with sds?

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beijingaling · 11/04/2011 09:25

Going back to Aus next week to introduce DD (12w) to dhs family. This includes my sdd (10) and sds (13). Were going to spend 3 days at my inlaws with my sdc then DH, myself, sdc and DD are all going north to the beach for 2 weeks.

Sdd is very excited to meet her sister and I think will be fine. Sds may be more of a problem. He remembers his parents being together and his father living in Australia. He resents me partly for quite a few reasons including, I think, breaking up his parents and keeping his dad in Beijing even though I came on the scene after his parents split but because no one actually told the kids that their parents weren't together and were just left to work it out for themselves it probably looks like it was my fault.

Sds is good at winding me up sadly and I don't really know how to manage him or how I react to him. DH won't get involved at all and I find the time we spend together stressful (10 days every 6 weeks). For example we have told them dds nn (like meg for megan for eg) but he persists in asking every single time we skype what her nn is. This happens twice weekly. It's such a small thing but it really gets on my wick. TBH everything that winds me up or annoys me is really small and pathetic. It's my reaction that is the problem, not necessarily his behavior but I don't know how to fix it.

So, how can I manage my reaction to dss and more importantly how do I encourage a good relationship between my DD and her brother and sister?

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