My DF has been with/married to my DSM for 15 years, I get on very well with my step mother and love her dearly and really want to make sure she knows this every christmas/mothers day and birthday for the past few years I have written out cards to try and express this to her but never know exactly what to say or can't bring myself to send them!
My father and step mothers relationship is totally on the rocks (DF has expressed to me many a time that he would like to divorce DSM) I that to express to her how much I value her would in away betray my father, but I feel that after so long (and that she has given me SO much love and support) she deserves some recognition and thanks for it.
My own mother is useless drinks and is generally just a bit rubbish, although she does try her hardest and in some ways I feel she has fallen into the role of a victim ( a role she relishes) and it is my DSM that has filled the void left by my own mother.
I suppose the question I'm really asking is that I feel I really need to express to my DSM how valued she is before her and my DF relationships totally falls apart (which would make a relationship for us difficult) but I'm not sure how to go about doing so, and feel nervous of the response I may receive, as step parents how would you respond this to from you your DSD? And what is the best way to go about this?
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hickerydickerydock · 09/04/2011 02:08
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