Without too much detail, I am looking for some advice/opinions before charging in with my size 9's.
One of my SD's has just told me that she has been away a couple of times with her mothers boyfriend, alone without her sister or mum, and that the last weekend, they spent the weekend sleeping in the same bed. She is 7.
He is quite overbearing, with us he tries to take a lot of control in parental discussions, and to be honest, the mother is very difficult indeed, and has always devolved a lot of the responsibility for the kids onto current boyfriends, although never us, however much we offer.
Other issues here are that the child in question has a persistent (4 months now) water infection, a few behavioural issues, nervous twitches etc. She used quite adult language for example she has been given ?options? as to how to spend her time, and she ?chose the best option?. When I tried to joke that surely she would prefer a bed to herself and not share with a big hairy man, she immediately explained that he is not hairy at all, he has a smooth body, and that she thinks he shaves his body.
After I had been told this (corroborated by her sister, who wasn?t there but obviously they have all discussed the bed sharing) she started to go quiet and a bit panicky, although this is common as they are constantly drilled at home to tell us nothing of their home life.
We have had some court issues and have a joint residence order in place, which they have recently been trying to change the terms of unofficially. We have contacted our solicitor who was very concerned indeed. I just wondered, in amongst all the step parents here, what the general thought was? To me, it seems really sinister, but any accusation is going to cause one whole heap of trouble, for us and for the kids, and while their safety is paramount, I just wondered whether my reaction to the bed sharing was oversensitive??
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LoodleDoodle · 24/03/2011 14:33
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