Have namechanged for this , sorry but i really need to get this out before i scream and pack my bags .
I love dh dearly , but i cant take any more shit from his adult daughter anymore.
I met him when she was 11 . He was divorced from his ex.(her mum).
He moved in when his dd was 12.
From the first time she met me she was all sweetness and light when her dh was present , but if he left the room id get nasty comments ect. I thought it was because she was upset about her parents divorce and just let it go , time after time after time.
She would drop litter in my house ,empty bottles and crisp packets .No biggie , but irritating all the same. When pulled up on it , she just shrugged and said it wasnt me.
She wrote little notes and left them about for me to find... saying fed up loves mr ex .(mr ex was my boyfriend before dh , who her mother happened to know about).
She would ask for money a lot , for expensive clothes and never wear them.
She would nag for expensive (the latest out) mobile phones ,we would buy them and shed swap them two weeks later for an old battered one .
Ditto for gold bangles and earings.
She would ask dh for favours for her mother.
She never ever said thank you for anything i bought her.
I took her to hairdresser once as a treat, it cost £80 ,the next week she chopped at her hair with sissors so it was a mess and we had to tell her there was no more money to fix it.
Her 16th party which we paid for was held in her mothers house so i couldnt attend.
On overhearing i was pg ,she told her mother i was shouting at them (sd and ss).This of course was lies , but in defending me dh told his ex i was pg , who promptly phoned dh's mum to tell her the good news.
On my childs first birthday , dh's mum had organised a birthday tea for all her grandchildren with a birthday cake ect. DD phoned up and told her granny she wasnt comming because i didnt like them (the step kids) anymore (wtf? ). Dh was on his way to pick her up from her mothers house at this time. She ruined the first birthday.
She arranged to get pg ,so she was 6 months gone by DH and mines wedding .
So the bridesmaid dress for her had to be redone at the last minute ...dh and i couldnt have the honeymoon we wanted because we had used some of the money for that.
We had to wait until we saved after before getting a weekend away.
She asked for bottles for her baby ...expensive ones.I got them for her. Never seen her use them.
She asked for a buggy ..i bought her the one she picked out....then she told dh she "wanted the red one".
She needed tiny baby clothes for her baby ...i got her them too ...she never said thank you and told people that her dad got them...(i paid for them not dh, not that it matters)
The sd has organised a wedding for a few weeks , shes having it 3 hours away from where we live , to make it difficult for dh to go. I and dc are not invited.
She told dh after he gave her the money for her wedding dress.
DH couldnt believe what he was hearing and spoke to his ex and asked her if she had a problem with me ?. She doesnt know whats up with sd .
2 weeks ago , as i was waiting in car for dc to come out of school, sd came up to the car said hello and walked away. She has baby in pram so i assumed she was going somewhere. She turned around and was on her mobile. I waved to her later when i passed her at a bus stop ...had dc in car by then so couldnt offer her a lift as no car seats empty for baby. She phoned dh and told him i wouldnt speak to her. (wtf?).
SD then told DH i could go to wedding reception , but not the wedding itself. OK .
Then later that day she phones dh and tells him shes changed her mind ive not to go .
DH hit the roof and said she was being unfair and insulting to him by not inviting me , his WIFE.
Her reply is , "Im your daughter , your choosing her over your daughter
? ."
Shes sent him a txt tonight saying " i need to know if your walking me down the isle ".
So is it just me ? or is she a bitch?.
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feduptrying · 23/03/2011 21:52
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