If I had the guts I'd post this in AIBU, but I haven't!
I am currently on maternity leave with DC2, DH runs his own business and is busy busy at the moment, he has been doing crazy hours, and kept saying that when the last project was over he would be around more. This hasn't really happened, he got in last night at 8.15 pm.
(He's been leaving the house around 9am and getting home at between 9 and 10pm, occasionally over but always after the bath bed routine
He does however always make sure that he gets home on Wednesdays and Fridays for DBD's visits (he picks her up one day I pick up another as it is a 1.5 hour round trip to get her and I offered to pick her up one day so he could work longer).
We had DBD and her half brother here on Friday and Saturday this weekend, they left at 11 on Sunday (DH left for ikea at 9.30). Dh got home at about 5pm, really grateful he went but a bit crap that we didn't see him all day.
Yesterday he left at 9ish and got home at 8.15, this morning he turns round at 7.30 and says right I'm off, and I got really cross. I told him we were all running to his schedule and it wasn't fair, that I was surprised that given he wasn't going to be home until after the DC's were in bed (he has parent evening for DBD at 6.30 tonight and is going straight there from work so he can take her out for supper) he might want to have breakfast with us and actually see DS (who is 3).
He stayed, you could have cut the atmosphere with a knife and I'm now thinking I'm being and ungrateful cow! I do really do value all the hard work he does (and tell him so a lot) but a totally gendered divide was not what I signed up for! Come on give me a kicking, I can take it!
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emskaboo · 22/03/2011 08:45
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