My OH's ex wife quit work after they married, and shortly after that began "needing" weekends away, and asking for more and more cash. Then they had their daughter, and the ex demanded more "time off" as being a full time mother was "beond stressful" ... so my OH worked 50 hours a week, then came home and did all the house and baby stuff, then paid for his ex to have weekends away so she could have some "me time". Sorry for all the quotes, I am just trying to get accross the situation in her own words IYSWIM.
The issue now is they went bankrupt as she had been secretly going to gambling resorts on her weekends away, and also had become addicted to online gambling. They nearly lost their house. My OH now works 60-70 hours a week to pay his mortgage, her new mortgage, and child support, plus his ex refuses to go back to work and says it's HIS responsibility to continue funding her lifestyle even though that lifestyle is exactly why he is divorcing her!!! Her gambling addiction means her daughter goes without a lot of things, gets stuck in front of the tv for hours a day when not at school, and now is seeing a psychologist for attachment issues :(
My OH is a wonderful father. When he isn't at work he has her stay with him, does all kinds of activities etc with her. He wants full custody as she really isn't well looked after with her mother. He can't do that though as he has to work 6 days a week a lot of the time to pay for his ex's lifestyle.I'm totally supportive of the idea of his daughter living with us when I (finally) move in. I think the poor child just craves attention and her mother ignores her all the time. I want to get on with the ex wife as I grew up with a nasty stepmother. But I can see how stressed my OH is trying to keep everything afloat.
How responsible is he legally for financially supporting his exwife? Given she blows everything she gets on internet gambling sites? She has a real problem and my OH desn't want to see the mother of his child go under. I just wish she would get a job and be responsible for herself now? AIBU?
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wrinklyraisin · 20/03/2011 18:21
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