I wonder what the f**k I'm doing here....
Married lovely man 2 yeas ago, after 4 years of long distance relationship. He was 3 years post divorce from a woman who's affair ended their marriage. The affair was 4 years before I met him. They have kids who are 17, 21 and 22.
The eldest is lovely and accepts me for what I am. their dad's new wife and can see that we are happy together. The two younger ones make it very obvious that I am absolutely nothing in their lives.
When they visit, they're made very welcome. I do this (now) for my DH. I just feel that our relationship (with his kids) now and for the future, is utterly futile. One of them only speaks to me when absolutely necessary and the other one often greets everyone else (on arrival) and walks past me, like I'm not there. My husband noticed and corrected them. In telephone conversations, I'll hear my DH saying "yes, so and so is Ok, work's OK, the cat's OK, uncle-tom-cobbly-the-world-and-his-wife's-OK" and there's never any mention of me. I don't exist.
I'm sad. Like I say, I think it's just about the fact that I'm here, at all. I think they'd be like that with another lady, if it wasn't me.
My DH and his ex do not speak. Not so long ago, the ex would (given the opportunity) have gotten back with my husband but he declined any invitation to meet up and discuss it as he explained, their relationship ended with her affair. We then started to plan our future together and I moved 100 miles to be with him. I love him and he tells me I am the love of his life. Shouldn't I just be content with that knowledge?
And yet....I don't think I'll ever be wanted in this.
My DH jokingly says "Nah.... they didn't ask after you!" because to say it seriously is horrible. But, I'm not laughing.
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LittleMissStuffit · 10/03/2011 10:31
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