Long story short, DH's ExW has gone to the CSA after the court order agreed 14 years ago expired to get higher payments (agreement was all payments would stop at 17 whether they were at school or not).
Despite the court order being agreed by all parties that payments would stop when SS's 17, CSA has over ridden this and awarded ExW nearly £800 a month.
DH and I took deep breath and then decided not to let it get us down and that it was only for 18 months so would just pay it and then forget about her (not SS obviously).
DH has spoken to SS today to tell him how much we are paying - really to let him know that any extras he wants will have to come from Mum out of his maintenance. He has told DH that he has not been getting on with Mum and is actually living with girlfriends parents 3 or 4 nights a week and has been doing so for the last 3 months. He has not got a good relationship with his stepdad and lived with us for 3 years following massive arguements with his Mum. He says he wants to stop doing A levels and get a job, but ExW has told him he can't. Cynic in me says this is because maintenance payments would stop.
So - do we go back to CSA and tell them he is not resident full time at ExW - should part of his maintenance go to his girlfriends parents?
Nothing on CSA website really covers this. Anyone come across it.
Posted here as don't really want a whole load of abuse about dodging maintenance payments - DH has always paid on the dot - it just seems unfair to SS and those providing him with food and shelter. We live 3 hours away so he could not move back with us without loosing all his friends etc.
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WkdSM · 28/02/2011 16:19
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