Relief

[emjanedel]

I feel a complete fraud both writing this and having to explain to the close people i had confided in. Two weeks ago it was explained to me that after being in court that my DP would have to take our DD to contact sessions with SD as she didnt want to see me. Anyway you were all very helpful and raised some questions that i thought were relevant. When the actual court order came through there was no mention of DD having to attend. Just "the mother make the child avaliable" and "father to meet at this time and place".
DP phoned the court as we had expected it to say "father and DD" so he wanted to know what he could do. The court were no help. So he phoned FNF as mumnetters had suggested. They explanied that as there was no clause in the order it would have been up to him to take DD or not. They then recommended that it is not in anybody's interests to given to SD's demands.
They recommended that SD be told that she should except her fathers new family and we should all find a way to make this work.
So last night DP went for contact on his own leaving DD with me and explained to SD that he would be seeing her on his own for a few weeks and then bringing dd and me into contact and she should try and make an effort for us all to get on.

Thank you so much for the advice. I just hope that this can all be resolved so that we can have a happy family life with DD and SD.

[ConfessionsOfaFlask]

That is such good news and I really do hope you can all move on from there.

FNF advice sounds like the right way to go about it.

good luck!

[catsmother]

Phew ! .... you must feel very relieved. Don't worry about being a "fraud" - of course you aren't. Hope it all comes together soon.

[prettyfly1]

FNF sound like finally someone gave you some sensible advice - well done and you are not a fraud. I hope it gets better soon.

[nenevomito]

emjanedel - thats great news.

Of course you're not a fraud, its just worked out better than you thought it would, which is a good thing!

[aLegonEachCorner]

I'm relieved for you.

I hope it goes well, over time.

Good Luck!