DC's refusing to see father. Typically he thinks its me stopping them. I've tried everything possible to find out why they don't want to go and suggested ways to start up visits again, but being youngish they just can't seem to explain why. "They just don't want to go". They get upset if I ask them to tell him direct - always get me to tell him they don't want to go! I know a few reasons but don't want to point a finger at him as it will make an already fragile relationship worse and the last thing I want to do because that will do more damage to the DC's. They aren't major issues to an adult but obviously are to them. He flatly refuses to meet up with me to discuss anything, more so since he's remarried and I presume would not go down well with his wife (long story - OW and insecure). Get no joy when try to talk to her either (have suggested a meet up in the past but she won't). Have suggested he just meet with DC's and resolving direct, but also to no avail.
Been quite a while since seen father and now he's going to force them (by picking them up and manhandling them into his car I presume! I'm sure until resolved they will still refuse to go) - totally the wrong way to resolve and I foresee a lot of unneccessary tears, trauma and long term damage for everyone.
May have put this in the wrong thread and will add to others for advice too, but his relationship with me and the DC's is just getting worse instead of better since remarried and I don't have a clue what to about it.
Any suggestions?
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talie101 · 25/02/2011 19:49
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