Here's the situation.
My DH was married previously. He has kids from his previous marriage. I came along 4 yrs after his divorce. He has good contact with his kids and the eldest is due to graduate this year. It is a special occasion, obviously.
His exW had an affair which devastated him as she refused to give up her lover. The affair had lasted some 3 years. They are no longer together and his ex would have returned to my DH following the split from her lover, given the chance. I had come along by then. We are now married and very happy and I get on ok with his kids.
However, his exW will NOT attend her daughter's graduation if we do. She says (via the kids) that she doesn't want things to be awkward for her daughter but I think it's more about her not feeling awkward/embarrassed.
I very very much like my SD. She is a pleasure and I would love to go to the graduation celebration though I have said I shan't if it would be a problem for her or her mum. It seems that the ExW is still not happy with this.....she wants neither me NOR HER EX-HUSBAND to attend. Or she won't go. God knows what'll happen when the SD gets married.....it's ludicrous.
I see this woman frequently. I had thought, some time ago to say hello. I know who she is, she knows who I am etc, we're all adults! But I was warned not to. The ExW is behaving like the "wronged woman". She had the affair; she ended the marriage; she is still on her own as the chap she was seeing went back to his wife. Her ExH has now moved on and is happy AND SHE DIDN'T WANT HIM ANYWAY!!
What's going on? What would you suggest. I KNOW SD wants her mum at the graduation. I know I would.
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