My 11 year old daughter has an on/off relationship with her SM. I am aware I may come across as unreasonable but really don't want to. DD says SM only likes her when she dresses like her (very different personality from me) and does what she says. SM has no children of her own. Have tried to discuss with ex in past but he always backs up SM. Odd as he's usually quite overbearing, lol. DD now refusing to visit father if "she" is there. Haven't interfered too much in the past due to it being thrown back in my face and I understand they may have different rules in their house etc but it seems to be escalating. If I try to resolve it, I'll be blamed for turning DD against them, or DD will be told off for discussing with me. DD constantly being told I have no taste in clothes, that they "pay out hundreds every month" to me (they don't, he pays the absolute minimum CSA instructed him to pay which is less than he spends on drink every month) and basically treat me like the hired childcare rather than her mother so anything I say will not be readily addressed. However, despite all this, I'd rather she had a positive relationship with both of them. Help!
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