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[littlejosh]

New to this forum Hi, am just looking for some feedback on the following:

Informed two weeks that DSD sat a Mock Maths Paper, have now asked when the real exam is, understood that DSD did revision for mock the night before only.

We have been informed by another parent that the real exam is in early-March and parents were issued (by school) with a letter/timetable confirming exam dates, exam module and subjects to revise.

Husband has been paying for extra tuition (at XP request) since last year for DSD for Maths as we have last tutorial session this week before half term and DSD sits actually exam, we feel like we?re banging our heads against a brick wall. The idea of the extra tuition was also to focus on exam technique and sit practise papers, which isn?t going to happen now.

Hus. has rung school to find out DSD mock result (as the results have been issued but XP hasn?t/won?t tell husband what the mark is yet!), he is also going to confirm the date of exam.

Education is v important to hus. and he has concerns DSD isn?t trying as hard as they could be. Hus has spoken to XP about this but breaks down into arguement over her thinking he thinks ?she isnt encouraging her?! We are frustrated at not being told anything and apparently we are making the situation mores stressful for DSD, as they are concerned about letting people down! We haven?t said anything like this.
I am concerned hus will go in guns blazing and ask why he isn?t being told anything, any ideas on how to deal with this, particularly if mock results is poor? We don?t know whether to say something now or leave it until DSD sits the exam and wait for the result. As we have asked several times about exam dates and mock results (we have asked XP and DSD) but were not being told anything. Hus isn?t included in DSD education much, has to ask to go to Parents Evenings, School Reports aren?t passed on.
If hus stops paying for the extra tuition he will the bas*!

Can XP advise school not to give Hus any information or do they have to?

[Greeninkmama]

One way to do this is is to write to the head asking that you are copied into any important letters sent home with your DSD, and enclosing a cheque to cover the extra costs of photocopying and postage.

..Though I have to admit we haven't got round to this. I do check the website every so often, but not everything is on there.

[ladydeedy]

we have had YEARS of trying to get school to copy husband on important docs. apparently they can only have one point of contact for email and you have to trust that things get shared. it has been really awful (until one of his boys came to live with us - now we have some contact from school at least). Husband's ex told school to put her as first contact and her mum as second contact and father (my husband) as third... so he got literally nothing despite going to school to meet headmaster, head of year etc. They just said oh well you are lucky to get anything!! it has been a fiasco for years. Thank god they are now almost both ready to leave school. persevere but dont expect it to be easy...

[littlejosh]

Thank you for the feedback.

Hus has been in contact with school and spoken to relevant teacher.

Mock result was very bad, and DSD and his XP found out last week but didnt tell us till early this week (after an augument)!

Have offered to spend time revising with DSD and have advised her to revise 30 mins every day until the exam (over the break), but get feeling their not interested and too busy!

Will wait to see what happens and then make decision about tutor, though not happy with them as they advised DSD not to worry, as they could resit the exam in November (feel I should complain, as were not paying for that!)...

[ladydeedy]

we had this too. suggested that DSS comes here during the week to do some supervised homework and real prep but was met with a "yeah maybe" and nothing materialised... It is so frustrating. At least you know you have tried to help.

[littlejosh]

Hello All

Further to previous messages, this is something else we need advise on...

Last year my hus. initially paid for DSD to have extra tuition at school (money was paid directly to XP who paid the teacher). This is before we decided to pay for another tutor!
We never spoke to the teacher or had any involvement with them (we were advised at the time, they didn?t have time to talk to us).
We have since found out the school were and are running extra tuition sessions, but it would appear they are non-paid for sessions.
Can anyone advise how we approach the school to find out if any teachers were running paid for tuition sessions at the time, do we simply ask straight out and how do we advise school not to speak to XP or talk to them.
Hus no longer pays for these sessions as we now pay for someone else, but he does want to find out the truth and have piece of mind...

Any suggestions would be welcome...I have cross posted on the Secondary School List aswell (as Im not sure which is the most approriate thread)...thank you