Sorry this is just a rant as I am soooo frustrated now its unbelievable.
Many mnetters are aware of my situ. To cut a long story short, I have moved into dp's home and given up my home.
Dp has one son living with us who is 19. He has not worked or gone to college for three years.
He does nothing to help out around the house gets up at midday and does not work.
He recently got his account card which had savings of £500 which has been built up for him over the years.
He is starting to blow it. He has passed his driving test two months ago and cant drive the car he has been given by a friend as he is not working so cannot pay for insurance.
We have now said he must pay rent as we cannot afford to keep him scott free (I work self employed around full-time college and also do bar work. so basically knackered!!)
So what does dss do? use his savings to pay for some of the insurance ?. Nooooooo that would be sensible. He buys a flat screen telly for his room even though there are six teles around the house because he feels he needs one???!!
Now I know what your thinking, this is not grounds for an argument. I said he was silly and wasteful of his cash and said to dp he better have the rent for you at the end of the week or you should take the telly away (I got no reply)
We both know he wont work and will pay his rent using savings and when its gone it gone!!
Anyway, I cut his hair in return for babysitting. But recently I have found my car uneconomical, and in a bid to save cash am selling mine to get an aygo as its cheap to run and tax.
So I asked dss instead of babysitting this time would be mind washing my car so I can sell it. He happily agreed.
So when I came home today and looked at the car i thought cheeky bugger has not done it. DP says he has!!! He got the water hose and doused it. No soap no sponge?!
Well I blew. He has done NOTHING all week except get up at midday and sit and watch telly.
Dp does not get it. For fuck sake surely a 19 year old lad should know you need soap to wash the car!!! He is not a baby.
Even worse was dp's reply. I cant watch him all the time. He did empty the dishwasher this week. For fs i am sick of him making excuses for him yet expecting mine to have rules and be disciplined.
Dp has been off for six weeks from work due to an accident. He has had plenty of time to gee him up and get him going but has not. When he is still in bed he does not get him up, does not give him chores and lets him do whatever !!!
AHHHHHHHHHH
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Abip · 04/02/2011 21:57
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