just want to say hello, am new to mnet but have a dd aged 11 with various physical disablities, type of muscular dystrophy, tracheostomy and ventilator, electric wheelchair, etc; in mainstream school; growing up v fast and i am facing all sorts of new difficulties. Also a dd aged 13.

I dont think my son would ever hit back although he is tall and bigwith it(the syndrome makes them grow tall and he is over 6 feet) Wish he would sometimes and teach someone a lesson but he doesnt have it in him

I think you'll find that a lot of it goes on, and there will be others along who will share your experiences.
My boy has always responded to a threat or a stressful situation with rage and a physical reaction, very powerful and usually only one hit.
He's not been bullied, mostly because his school is fantastic about identifying, pre-empting and supporting the needs of its students (MS College, over 1,500 pupils) but also because only a masochist would pick on Boy twice.
And although I shouldn't be, I've always been pleased that it is so. Thought you had an easy victim? Think on.

[quote]It's horrible when that happens, and when you know it won't be a one-off either. having to keep your gameface on for him and be supportive and calm when what you want to do is some serious mutilation with tooth and claw.
And you wonder what harm he is doing to anyone, and why can't others be tolerant of difference.
There are some nasty little vermin out there[/quote]

Yes thanks for that.. I once chased some teenagers through my village in my little car My son only went to the village shop to fetch milk for an elderly next door neighbour and four teenagers followed him home right behind him calling him names. Good for him that he didnt retaliate but kept on walking but was in tears. Then they threw stones at my house!!! so I chased them. Our shop has CCTV so we managed to identify the buys who were cautioned by the police.

Anyone elses SN children suffer from bullying?

It's horrible when that happens, and when you know it won't be a one-off either. having to keep your gameface on for him and be supportive and calm when what you want to do is some serious mutilation with tooth and claw.
And you wonder what harm he is doing to anyone, and why can't others be tolerant of difference.
There are some nasty little vermin out there.

My son has a chromosome abnormality 48XXYY - it is a variation of Klinefelters syndrome.

He is 19 now and we have been told that he will probably have a brain age of about 2/3.

He is at special college now and will be there for 2 years... that is working well. He had two years at other colleges that were mainstream but took special needs children that did not work at all for us. The bullying was bad - quite covert and our son was a different person then, he lost all of his confidence.

The day he came home and asked "Mum what is a paedophile? (he didnt say it quite correctly) because that is one of the names they call me at college" we decided enough was enough and removed him from the horrible kids there.

He is also bullied where we live- he hardly ventures through the door to be honest.

Nice to read other peoples experiences.

i got one in answer to op....

totally missed this section. doh.

Hello
I have an almost 14 yr old boy in mainstream school ( - just ) who is high functioning autistic and causes me no end of grey hairs.
My dd is 10 and is not SN but does have type 1 diabetes which is not quite a walk in the park either

Nice to meet you all - have only just found this place

Hi - I have 3 dcs - 17yr DD in 6th form, 15yr DD HFA/Aspergers and 13yr DS also HFA/Aspergers, both now in mainstream school with help.

Pinched this from another thread, because I thought it was lovely.

To quote Lancelottie
"It does tickle me when we're mid-chat and he says something like, 'Did you notice that I acknowledged what you just said and expressed interest before I carried on? I've been practising...'"

That sounds exactly the sort of thing my aspie would say. I've spend years working with mine on manners and social behaviour and appropriate responses. He's so pleased with himself sometimes, when he's tiptoed through the minefield and not triggered a single explosion.