Hi,
I think you've made the first important steps. You've recognised your brother's difficulties and discussed it with your mum. Your brother obviously knows he is different and hopefully he will read the book and begin to understand his difficulties. A diagnosis isn't necessary and may not be particularly helpful, especially if the community/country isn't geared up for autism.
There are lots of websites now which offer support and your brother might benefit from this. Try the NAS (www.nas.org.uk) for a start.
I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome 6 years ago (at the age of 39). The diagnosis helped me to understand my own difficulties. I now run my own autism consultancy so please feel free to PM me if you want to ask any questions.

Bumping it for you, as I guess Fridays are slowly.

I am sorry for typos and grammar and everything else but it's always a rush.

I have name changed only to protect his identity but I am a regular poster.

Since reading an article on a national newspaper years ago I have become convinced that my brother suffers from Asperger. I have since bought and read a few books and he fits the description. I also suspects that there might be other issues, as often are, but I would not dare make any more diagnosis myself.
I have spoken with my mum about it at length and she kind of agrees (she is the one dealing with him an a regular basis and it is a bit of a strain) although it pains her so because of the reality of it and what the future holds and because she could have helped him in the past had she known.
My father on the other hand got very angry when I mentioned it to him and I think it is because he himself might suffer too albeit in a much more functioning form (apologies for incorrect terminology). He seems to suffer for some kind of Paranoic disorder so not the best person to talk about such issue.

I was very happy that we could 'put him in a box' mainly because his 'strange' behaviour could be explained and because we could find tools to help him and learn ourseves how to deal with him in a more positive way.

The country in which my DB lives is not so geared up for Asperger as the UK and in small towns there's virtually nothing.

He has been to a psychologist before and was a disaster.

I have given a book to him because he is the first one to realise he is different, thinks and processes things differently and the one that always tries to come up with solutions on how to cope in 'our' world. This on a good day.
He has not commented on them and I suspect he might not have even read them.

It is abvious to all of us now that he is incapable of taking care of himself long term. I do not live close to them and feel guilty when I hear how isolated he is, how dependant on and what a burden/worry for my mother he is.

Any thoughts from any of you who have experiences of Aspergers in adults in general and especially those that have never been professinally disgnosed is very welcomed.

Anything to help us all out.

TIA