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DESPERATE to work but no childcare

(15 Posts)
Smilesandpiles Thu 27-Feb-14 14:24:06

As said,

I'm desperate to work, even working just 4 hours a day will see me double my income that I'm getting in at the moment.
The problem is DS, who is Autistic. Friends are not close enough and I don't trust them enough, there is no special needs childcare for SN children and I have NO family around.

Any ideas? How does everyone else manage?

bochead Thu 27-Feb-14 16:03:37

I had to give up work 3 years ago. Racked my brain and drove myself nuts before concluding it was a bust returning to what I did before in any capacity sad.

Now I'm retraining via the OU for a new home based career that I hope to FINALLY get off the ground in a couple of years time.

In the meantime, I'm an expert on tasty ways to cook lentils, as financially we've had a rough ride.

Smilesandpiles Thu 27-Feb-14 16:18:31

sad

That's what I'm afraid of. I'm looking at going to Uni because when DS is older and I've completed the course I MIGHT have a chance at being able to work then, but I'm so fed up with it all at the moment.

I've got a voluntary job at the moment but it's the earning part I miss. I miss being able to support myself and the kids...I hate this, HATE IT, HATE IT, HATE IT.

PolterGoose Thu 27-Feb-14 16:25:23

Smiles why don't you do your degree now? OU or other distance learning could fit and stops you feeling like you're not being productive IYSWIM?

Smilesandpiles Thu 27-Feb-14 16:34:52

Sorry, I didn't explain myself very well.

I will be doing it soon (hopefully), I've got a few other things to do first, like bump my grades up and do an access course, so it's not as though I'm sat doing nothing.

The theory is, while ds is at secondary school I could be going to Uni so we are kind of off at the same term times (I hope, may be very off that mark with that). When he's ready for college or whatever it is his options are, I should either be qualified or close to.

In theory...in my dream...we'll both be working at around the same time. If he can work that is, but at that age, he should be ok to leave at home for the day if not...maybe with some sort of carer with him if needs be.

I just miss working so much, everything about it. Everything depends or will depend on him and his condition. It's horrible for both of us.

PolterGoose Thu 27-Feb-14 16:41:20

Oh no Smiles I wasn't at all suggesting you're sitting around all day doing nothing shock I didn't mean to imply that at all, I'm sorry if it came across like that flowers

What I mean was, as work would be so tricky now why not use this time to do the degree instead of delaying the degree?

Smilesandpiles Thu 27-Feb-14 16:47:32

No no! It didn't. Oh dear, I'm making such a mess about this. Sorry.

What you are suggesting is what I plan to do. At least we are both on the same page with that.

It's just all so fustrating. I'm so tired of being skint, as I said even working just 4 hours a day would make us so much better off but the lack of childcare for SN children makes everything so much bloody harder.

Mind you, if I did get that 4 hour a day job I wouldn't be able to study either I guess...

Urgh.

Glittery7 Thu 27-Feb-14 20:56:19

Sandandpiles, how old is your DS? Am also desperate to work and in a similar position to you.
My DD is 4, mainstream reception class and has ASD. Breakfast/after school cannot accommodate her as she needs full time 1:1.
Am starting a SEN teaching assistant course soon from home but I'm lonely, isolated and skint!

Smilesandpiles Fri 28-Feb-14 08:39:46

Shit isn't it Glittery?

He's 10 in mainstream for now but that's a whole other issue that may throw a spanner in the works soon.

We've just (this week) sent his statement off, now we're in for the long wait and hopefully a last second change of plan to get him into a special school if he gets his statement.

If he doesn't - I'm going to have to home school him. He won't cope in secondary. He bearly copes with primary.

Edendance Sat 08-Mar-14 13:07:34

What about a special needs nanny? Or a SEN LSA looking for extra income during evenings and/or weekends? I've worked as both, more than happy to give extra info if you need it. Check out SNAP nanny agency if you're london based.

Edendance Sat 08-Mar-14 13:09:11

Glittery, have you found out for a fact that you need to do that course? I with many others have worked as a SEN LSA with no relevant qualifications or experience at all, learning as we went from a mixture of courses and workshops offered by the job as well as experience whilst on the job.

magso Mon 10-Mar-14 11:37:18

It is possible to get suitable 1:1 sn childcare (if that is what you are looking for) but it can be very costly because you need a suitable person and environment. So the cost of employing a carer can negate anything you earn, unless the job you do is significantly better paid! However there are many reasons to work beside earning money. We employ a carer to look after ds in our own home afterschool when I am at work ( only 1 day a week). The right person is more critical than their qualifications (if any). It depends on your child's needs. Amongst the suitable carers we have used are an ex nurse ( when ds was younger), a lovely ex sn teacher and a TA working at the local school. There are specialist carer companys that can provide suitable sn carers ( at about £18 an hour!) and look after the employment, or you can find someone yourself and and pay on a self employed basis or become their employer using companies that specialise in tax and NI accountancy and employment for disabled employers. It might be worth asking if your son could get direct payments (DPs). Some disabled children with very high needs are given payments to employ a carer, to give the main parent carer a break. To access DPs the child first has to have a social services assessment, but not all disabled children are eligible. It might be worth asking though.
Afterschool provision (in groups) is very patchy. Mencap run some afterschool clubs in a few areas. These are more for social development and fun than for childcare as such, but it might be worth checking what is available locally. Action for children might be another charity that run activities for children with additional needs. Some special schools (none around me sadly) run a limited afterschool provision. Another avenue to check out. It might be worth asking at special schools near you if they know of any suitable provision. Some times SN TAs are looking to earn a little extra so might be prepared to provide afterschool caring.

Rumours Mon 10-Mar-14 18:13:14

Im in a similat position, I have two dc's with asd and I completed my ou degree last year but feel frustrated that I can't use it yetsad . My dcs need me at home. I have thought of doing some more courses but im just so tired at the moment I can just about muddle through the day. ds2 has got a lot worse since I finished the degree.
I keep telling myself that my time will come. So my post is just to say you are not alone op smile

Edendance Mon 10-Mar-14 18:37:51

My first nannying job was with a 2 year old little boy with ASD and his NT 1 year old brother. I earnt the same as what I have done in subsequent NT jobs and all jobs I've seen advertised for SEN nannying have been the same cost. Hiring a nanny isn't an option for many people but on cost alone it shouldn't be any more limiting to find a SEN suitable candidate. smile

mompa Mon 10-Mar-14 22:24:54

I have a 6 year old boy who is severely autistic with behavioural problems and is non verbal. He attends special school and goes after school club with one to one help 3days a week and has home carer we found locally by advertising for the other 2days. I work full time and blong hours. It can be done. Most areas have inclusion projects so that children with special needs can access mainstream provision

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