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I suspect DS may have dyspraxia.

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Dobbiesmum Mon 07-Oct-13 12:00:35

Right, DS is 12, year 8 and is massively struggling. It's been niggling me for a while now but I had a look at the a dyspraxia Foundation website on the recommendation of a friend and he shows quite a few signs. Would people have a read for me and tell me what you think about getting him seen, and what the procedure is please?
He has:

Poor short term memory
Poor concentration skills, he gets way too many detentions for low level disruption.
Poor timekeeping
He's very sporty, a keen cricketer and we have no issue with fine motor skills (he's a bowler) but tires easily and very quickly.
Has obsessions about certain interests, needs to know and talk about every spect of whatever subject it is at the moment.
Bad mood swings and a lack of awareness about how to speak to people at times. Conversely he is considered to be quite polite, if a bit awkward in social situations.
Lacks an awareness of danger at times, he's someone who has to poke it to see if it's hot.
He has a small circle of very good friends, is very easily led by stronger personalities.
He has godawful handrwriting, his 8 year old sister is neater, and he still spells phonetically despite support in school and at home.
Can't sit still. Gets told off for this at school -again with the low level disruption-, has to be jiggling his knees/feet or messing with something.
Struggles with a knife and fork, tying laces and ties - he can do both but with difficulty.
Sensitive to high noise levels in an enclosed space, for example he's fine in a football stadium but in a noisy classroom he has in the past had to leave the room because he couldn't handle the noise.
He's always been left handed at everything but struggled to adapt certain things like placing his paper correctly without constant reminders.

Going back some years:
He didn't crawl, he bum shuffled or did the commando style arm over arm thing.
Was a late walker.
Excitable and a bad sleeper as a baby. This is still the case in a way, he can survive on 5/6 hours sleep a night and struggles to settle down.

Sorry this is so long, I feel a little better for getting it down! Concerns I had in the past were dismissed as things he will grow out of..

spanky2 Mon 07-Oct-13 17:09:35

Ds1 has dyspraxia and the handwriting, organisation and concentration are definately issues. He has a shocking memory except for things he is interested in. The spelling and fiddling are just like my ds1. It does also sound like sensory disorder with the loud noises in confined spaces, but that also could be dyspraxia as maybe it is very distracting to him. My ds1 crawled and ds2 bum shuffled and doesn't have dyspraxia! Get a knife and fork with fat round handles as they are easier to grip. People with dyspraxia also generally find it difficult to follow rules when playing games, which is why they tend to have a smaller circle of friends.

spanky2 Mon 07-Oct-13 17:10:44

Oh I forgot ds1 will routinely walk out infront of cars when crossing the road, but won't ride his bike down a hill!

Dobbiesmum Mon 07-Oct-13 21:36:22

Thanks, I'm going to see the GP tomorrow to have a chat and see what he thinks about getting DS assessed.

Jacksterbear Mon 07-Oct-13 22:20:40

A lot of those things on your list do look sensory-related. Have you looked into sensory processing disorder (of which dyspraxia is a part, as I understand it)?

Jacksterbear Mon 07-Oct-13 22:39:57

It might be worth having a look through a sensory questionnaire to pinpoint which areas he is struggling with.

Dobbiesmum Tue 08-Oct-13 17:46:13

I'll have a look at that thanks Jacksterbear.
Well I went to see the GP without DS today with my list to have a chat with him. The GP was more than satisfied that he could refer DS to CAMHS going off what I told him, which was basically what I put in my OP. I've told his form tutor about this development so we'll see what happens.
Do I hold my breath or are we going to have to wait forever for an appointment?
Oh, and would someone mind telling me what the next step is wrt to school? Do I have to stay on their backs about this? They did have a fairly good pastoral record but it's just become an Academy and they are cracking down on every thing and anything, which makes me nervous tbh.

youarewinning Tue 08-Oct-13 20:35:59

You've just described my 9yo DS grin

He is being assessed by Camhs for ASD - but I work in a SS and have access to OT's and physios as well as a sensory OT the school employs privately.

They've been giving me things to look at/for in DS and I showed them some video today. Apparently he's retained some primitive reflexes which does affect sensory processing. The physio said there is many similarities between dyspraxia and aspergers (his poss dx) and also many people who have an ASD also have dyspraxia.

Sounds like we'll be travelling this path together.

Dobbiesmum Wed 09-Oct-13 09:57:48

I feel really guilty for not doing something about this before, I just kept getting told by very experienced and long serving teachers at his primary school that he would grow out of it whenever I raised any concerns. And then in year 7 he got labelled as a naughty child for the last half of the year, not one person noticed anything. I even got told I was being naive and he was playing us at one point! This is a school that has had a brilliant reputation for dealing with all kinds of disabilities...
angry sad

2boysnamedR Wed 09-Oct-13 10:29:46

Your son sounds very much like mine. I was also told he would grow out of it! He has dyspraxia and SPd

youarewinning Wed 09-Oct-13 17:21:15

and guess what? grin

I was told "he's a boy and a summer born" <lets all sing> "he'll grow out of it" grin

He's grown into his SN's though - as in got more noticeable as he's falling further behind his peers!

Dobbiesmum Thu 10-Oct-13 10:35:10

That's exactly the same with mine, although he's winter born he's definitely getting worse as he gets older. And now he's having to have a day in isolation because of disruptive behaviour! He seems to find it easier to accept the punishment than behave in class at the moment. Spoke to one of his teachers yesterday, he didn't know about the refferal so that's a bloody good start, he thinks it's a good idea, but they won't do anything until CAMHS get in touch with them by the sound of it so unless isolation gives him a jolt they're going to continue to crack down on him and sigh down the phone at me...
none of us need this right now, we have so many other worries going on at this rate I'm going to end up at the doctors myself.

sugaryspice Sat 12-Oct-13 14:30:06

I have suspected my dd has dyspraxia and discalcular for years. She's 6, displays all of the signs in various degrees and soils herself regularly as she doesn't 'feel' the need to go, which was our primary reason for seeing our GP over 2 years ago. She's still undiagnosed, her case being seriously mishandled imo. We recently discovered that the last paediatrician discharged her without our knowledge before having an assessment to rule out dyspraxia, which he agreed she needed! On the discalcular front if you ask her what 1+1= she'll answer 1 and really finds maths a struggle. Her class teacher is the SENCO at her school so is fantastic at supporting her needs without having a diagnosis yet, but can't do the assessment as it has to be done via the GP here. My GP is chasing up the paediatrician, but has failed to call me with an update despite promises over a fortnight ago. Frustration is not the word! I hope it won't be another 2 years before someone sees what I clearly can! In the meantime I carry a bump and grazes kit, wipes and clean knicks and a bucket load of patience with me at all times. Good luck to all those seeking answers. I hope the barriers aren't as formidable where you live!

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