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Any one wan't to join me in feeling fed up and low?

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By Wed 04-Nov-09 10:08:27 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Just feeling sorry for myself (again).

Fed up with being fobbed or reg dd2's education.

Fed up with DH for not helping me with the dd's but is happy to sit and watch as i struggle with dd1's behaviour.

Fed up with people thinking they know best for my dd's when they have no experience of ASD.

Fed up with having no social life, being a SAHM and carer.

Fed up with not being able to take the girls away for a few days because dh doesn't want to go anywhere.

I feel like bundling the girls in the car and driving far far away sad

, i know i can't run away from things but at the moment i don't feel strong enough to fight any more sad

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Sorry for the rant but this is the only place i can do it, i have no one in RL who i can talk to, my mum doesn't listen and seems to think the girls don't have any problems, my husband seems to think there are no problems but spends most of his time moaning about the dd's being to noisy, to messy etc but doesn't show willing in helping me handle their behaviour.

Dd1 is pushing me to the limit with the continues talking, answering back, not going to sleep and only wanting mummy.

Dd2 is talking more and more which makes me happy as 6 months ago she was non-verbal but dh just moans as dd2 spends hours (at night) singing nursery rhymes and mimicking things from the TV.

Yesterday i spoke to the head of dd2's school (for next sept)_only to be told they may not have the money to fund a 1:1 for her next september (i am trying to get her statemented).

I just feel like i am doing all this fighting for the dd's by myself and dh thinks because he works he hasn't got time to support us at home, i know he supports us with money and he works hard but i need support at home.

Thanks for listening, i could write more but i don't want to bore you grin

, i'm sure a lot of you are going through the ame if not worse.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 07:20:26

the LA owns it. But they claim cos we broke it it negates the insurance so we have to pay.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 21:10:35

Riven - that's what insurance is for. My son's equipment is supplied by your LA and the LA also pays for the insurance policy premiums he has taken out on theat equipment. I don't know who 'owns' your DD's equipment - you or school - but whoever does shold have it insured and if it's you then you can claim the premiums back.

Best wishes

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 14:56:37

they have to prove you used wrong charger riven and broke it didnt think chargers broke things it would just blow the charger not the item

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 14:44:11

oh great. school are claiming we broke dd's mini-message mate by using the wrong charger and want £280 for fixing it. We didn't and I don't have 28p let alone nearly 300 quid. Am now worried sick sad

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 14:41:47

Marne, it is so difficult to manage everything, children, appointments, battle for everything, the home,... and with no or little support from family or friends, it does get us down.

I sometimes wish i could just curl up somewhere and sleep whislt someone else it sorting things out.
I'm totally fed up to be told one thing by someone then another by someone else.
I don't know who i can fully trust, listen to, when it comes to DS's dx and schooling.
The only ones that i can rely on for advice and impartial opinions are right here....you ladies on MN.

I hope it gets better and easier to manage for all of us very soon. Sending you hugs.
xx

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 13:50:57

oh just checked not near me but my dp mum lives in plymouth so maybe next time were around that way we could do something im sure your not that far from plymouth are you?

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 13:49:19

if you live near me we could always get together or even take kids away id help you

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 13:48:09

big hugs to everyone sorry haven't been on here for a long time now

marne it can feel like the loneliness job in the world my dp works long hrs and all the battles have been down to me and me only i know how your feeling but you must remind yourself although its a struggle your doing good

if you ever want to talk my email is sylv _ 25 at hotmail dot co dot uk no spaces

that applies to anyone

also im so happy to hear your dd is talking more that is fab

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 13:27:11

Can I join in, too, at least just temporarily. Got some kind of virus - sore throat, fever. Sort of thing that just makes you want to wrap yourself up in bed with a good book and a cup of tea. Instead, it's half term and both kids are rampaging. DD is in sensory seeking overdrive after a week's lack of routine. Usually I just take her out / do something physical but today I just want her to go away and amuse herself which she is really BAD at.
DS is being adorable toddler but the last thing I want right now is an adorable toddler IYSWIM. Oh, and I know that DH isn't going to be home until 9 p.m. tonight so no chance of help with baths and bed grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 12:31:41

Thank you all so much and yes there's plenty of room on the bench grin

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I think dd1 is being hard work because she was ill 2 weeks ago and got a lot of attention from me (extra cuddles, time spent playing board games ect) and i just havn't got the time to spend as much time with her now, i try to make time for her when she gets home from school but it always ends with dd1 taking thing to far and answering me back, i find myself constantly arguing with her and she always seems to get the last word ( as most AS children seem too grin

), dh just sits there and doesn't back me up and blames me for her behaviour.

I would love to run away but the problem is i would one day have to come back.

Dd2 has portage coming at 2pm so at least i can relax when dd2 gets some attention grin

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