And tehse are the people that we should be able to trust to produce the best outcome for our kids

Yep claw. Try your best, but don't beat yourself up if it isn't perfect coz you'll be doing it for years and be an expert in no time.

BTW, on the back of this thread I said to my ds' preschool leader today 'when is ds' IEP meeting' and she look surprised and said:

'erm, how about today or on Monday after preschool?'

Then I looked surprised, or more like

So thanks.

Thanks Debs40, i am off to google example care plans, the school dont seem to know how to write these sorts of things and neither do i, so the blind leading the blind!

Practice makes perfect huh

WetAugust - You are a star, thank you so very much.

Claw, we had a care plan about this sort of issue when DS first started school. It included the who would deal with it and what would happen if an 'accident' happened.

Claw

I've heard other parents complain too that the school ignores their children when they have soiled. I seem to remember that in this instance school should draw up some sort of Care plan, in addition to the IEP, to address this specif issue. Leaving himinthat state is simply not acceptable and a letter to school to that effect is definitely called for.

Your example:
X often misinterprets emotions or actions causing him to feel rejected and isolated’ How are the school going to help X with this?

The first sentence is the 'need'. the next part should state the support e.g.

1) X will receive n hours of one-to-one support each (day / week / month) provided by (who) which will aim to proactively teach him social skills To be reviewed each (month / term and revised targets set in response to progress.

2) X will be provided with the opportunity to practise his social skills in a sheleterd group of (n) classmates, (X) times per (week/month) during which he will be observed by (who) and will receive praise and feedback on how weell he did, and what he could do to handle situations that arose during this activity. To be reviewed......

That sort of thing - explicit and SMART.

List his problem areas and then write a strategy to tacle each proble area that is SMART.

Sorry guys i know im driving you all insane, based on ds's IEP should i be asking the school what they intend to do about it or telling them.

For example IEP states:- X often misinterprets emotions or actions causing him to feel rejected and isolated’ How are the school going to help X with this?

or this is detrimental to X's self esteem and is causing a barrier to X being able to build positive relationships. I believe that X needs one to one help with this. (should i also state how much one to one help, if so what is a reasonable amount of time?)

Wetaugust - Ive come to a stumbling block and would really appreciate your advice on this one.

Ds is incontinence, well partly, he doesnt feel the necessary sensation until he has already started to go, he tries to hold it in and rushes to the toilet at the last minute, but already has poo in his trousers and around his bottom. Now teacher has wipes and spare trousers and all he has to do is ask, but he wont. The school have given him a card to use instead, but he wont use that either.

So he stays that way all day in school.

At home he asks for help and i clean him up etc.

How do i incorporate this into the IEP?

I think the thing for parents who dont have a dx, is that you are made to feel you could well be making a fuss about nothing, especially with comments from GP's like 'dont worry, he will grow out of it' or comments from the school like 'if you say he cant do something, he wont' etc, etc. They have a knack of putting that doubt there and making you feel like an over anxious mother!

Probably a really silly question, but are schools usually all for statementing or against?

that Mrs August...shes good isnt she! (hi witty!)

i must get down these boards more often. and i can vouch for what these ladies are saying, there comes a point where you have to press for what you need, or you just end up 5 years later wondering what the hell it was all about. trust me. i only ever got sort of halfway there. if i knew then what i knew now id have taken the buggers to tribunal and no mistake.