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went to local harvester yestoday and left feeling sooo mad!

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salsmum · 05/11/2007 19:29

I rang our local Harvester restuarant yestoday to ask if they could reserve a table for the 3 of us, I explained that my daughter uses an electric wheelchair and the waitress informed me that they dont reserve tables on a sunday.She apologised but told me they wernt very busy anyway.
On arriving at the Harvester it had become quite busy but she did say she'd saved us a table anyway. Unfortunatly i then had to explain to her that my daughters chair would'nt fit under that table because it had a wooden ledge under it and because my girl has a high CAPS 2 seating system she wouldnt get her legs under.
The lady was very helpful and explained that the four 'ladies' on a more suitable table had just sat down and she'd ask if they would mind moving tables.[all in full view of us we could see them look over at my girl sat in her chair]
THEY FLATLY REFUSED
Was i being unreasonable to expect a ;little understanding on their part? there was the other table available. These 'ladies' were smartly dressed 25-30 yr olds. we were sooo embarrassed and my daughter couldnt understand why they wouldnt help .
I found myself explaining to her about manners, empathy and how although some young ladies appear beautiful on the outside they are not on the inside. Doesnt give me much hope for her future independant living [shes 18]. i was so upset by their attitude.
What do you think mums? how would you have felt in the same situation??

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KbearYourPoppywithPride · 05/11/2007 19:40

That is unbelievable. You are not being unreasonable and I would have probably had an unfortunate tripping incident on the way back from the bar with a nice pint of Guiness.

What did you end up doing? Did you stay?

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hifi · 05/11/2007 19:44

thats terrible, you must have all been upset,witches night out after halloween i think.

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needmorecoffee · 05/11/2007 19:45

good grief. Some people are just selfish. I think if I'd been there my powerchair wouldhave malfunctioned and rammed their table. It does that
But then I once was trundling along and a woman in a 4x4 pulled up on the pavement in front of me. I couldn't get pass so politely asked her to move and said its illegal to park on pavemnets. Next second she is in my face shouting 'you f cripple, I hate your sort, I hope you die'
Didn't move her car either. I was so shocked I just sat there!

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needmorecoffee · 05/11/2007 19:46

thats an insult to witches, hifi. All the ones I know would have moved.

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hifi · 05/11/2007 19:50

they must have been evil black ones.

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salsmum · 05/11/2007 19:53

LOL yes we did but i was so embarrassed for my daughter. didn't spill guiness on them just shot them daggers throughout meal while makin low animal noises n jabbing steak knife into polished table.
I was just sooo mad that they could be sooo rude i still open doors for peeps and help oaps cross the road just general consideration costs nothing

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salsmum · 05/11/2007 20:03

Needmorecoffee
Thats terrible, I just say to myself what goes round............
I once got in touch with a dreams come true charity because my girl wanted to meet a certain popstar, they arranged for her to go to his wembley concert but asked his management for a backstage pass as extra surprise.
A refusal came back saying pr REFUSED TO MEET MY 7 YEAR OLD BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER BECAUSE HE WOULD BE TOO EMBARRASSED
Not long after that he tragically became the dad of a badly disfigured/disabled baby who died.

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mymatemax · 05/11/2007 20:14

I hope they all got bloody food poisoning.

Even before having a child with sn I would willingly give up a seat for someone, its just good manners.

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pinkcandyfloss · 05/11/2007 20:26

they should be ashamed of themselves! Some people are so self centered!

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yurt1 · 05/11/2007 21:06

How selfish. Unbelievable how self centred some people can be.

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2shoeswhizzbangwoosh · 05/11/2007 21:25

can't say anymore as it would be too bloody rude

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eidsvold · 05/11/2007 21:44

that is just pathetic - selfish, ignorant and utterly shite on their part.

Upset - I would have been bloody incandescent with rage.

salsmum- name and shame the popstar.

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TotalChaos · 05/11/2007 22:09

how feckng selfish can you get?

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lottiejenkins · 05/11/2007 22:18

I think i may have guessed who the pop star is! Does he have name that is part of the royal family??

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bookofthedeadmum · 05/11/2007 22:29

Salsmum - I'm not saying it wasn't awful saying that but at least they were honest. It doesn't make it right what they did but they could easily have created some other excuse for not meeting them. I think I'd have written back and tried to re-educate them .

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salsmum · 05/11/2007 23:19

lottiej
how did you guess?????
it was in fact Prince or$ & % sorry havent got 1 of them thingy squiggle signs on my keyboard!
I would like to think that it was his management who made the decision because I had to look at his mug on my daughters wall for about 3 years after that .
I do like his early stuff though .
I think i was brainwashed where I used to listen to it soooo much from my girls c.d. player. NOW she likes RNB beatem up shootem up blingbling stuff and the swear words .
Best stop there i'm begining to sound like me mum .
Any one for David Cassidy

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Christie · 05/11/2007 23:47

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salsmum · 06/11/2007 00:28

christie,
Good P R trick if you ask me just to ensure your students will ALWAYS shop in ASDA
only kidding of course .
I know there are some very kind, caring peeps out there ...thankfully they more than make up for the nasty ones.
I do generally find that once 'our kids' get older [teenage] and they lose that 'cute appeal' people are generally less helpfull do other mums find this ???????

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Christie · 06/11/2007 17:29

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kimi · 06/11/2007 17:44

What a load of bitches.

I think any decent person would have moved.

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salsmum · 06/11/2007 18:07

christie,
my daughter is 18 now and although severely physically disabled doesnt have learning difficulties, she has a head full of dreams about living independantly and although I'd never shatter those dreams and do encourage her I feel very scared at times to how well she will actually cope I know she is vonurable and will take peeps on 'face value'I also worry who will be there for her to fight the daily battle with equipment, o.ts, social services, transport etc etc....if someone offered to help her get her money out of her purse in a queue in the shops she would probably trust them.
I suppose i want to protect her [although i'm a realist] Its a cruel world out there.

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kimi · 06/11/2007 18:38

I would have been tempted to flick peas at them

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salsmum · 06/11/2007 20:20

kimi,
unfortunatly they were too far away but still in sight my pea flickin not too good these days lol.
But did 'flick' a few filthy looks in their direction.

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Christie · 06/11/2007 21:15

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salsmum · 06/11/2007 23:35

When i went to my daughters intended college star college i was asked 'if i thought sal could cope with living independantly?'i replied that i would worry if someone appeared at her door seeming friendly, confident, smart etc..that she would actually trust them and invite them in.
Silly little things as well like if she went out to a club and met a guy who then took her outside to either verbally abuse her in front of his mates or worse....
I'm sensible enough to know that at her age for her to go out into the world as a confident independant adult i must take 2 steps back but i worry when im alone about her future.
I do understand what you mean about students who 'appear normal' i used to work for a charity and went on playschemes there was 1 particular very good looking lad of 15 who had a fetish for minibus seats guess who got the job of gently coaxing him away???
must have looked quite a scene to average passer by lol.

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