Felt like punching a doctor

[needmorecoffee]

DD is still in hospital and yelling 23 hours a day from the steroids so she's not herself. Normally, despite her severe CP, she is bright and alert and responsive and intercative. Her intelligence is normal.
So yesterday this consultant comes into the room. DD doesn't look, just carries on screaming and this stupid bloody doctor says oh she seems quite herself. (This consultant last saw her 3 years ago when she was 6 months old and was in hospital from Noro virus. This consultant didn't believe it was noro and wanted dd to have a NG tube to make her feed then threatenend us with court when I pointed out that dd would eat but was throwing up)
So DH says, no, normally she is alert etc etc and the stupid woman didn't believe us.Put on a patronising voice and said 'well, parents often think that '. She then proceeded to explain the EEH to us in terms of good and bad wiggly lines!
I'm so cross. If we'd gone in with a sudden loss of skills/mental ability and seen this idiotic woman she wouldn't have believed us that dd is 'normal' (don't like that term but you know what I mean) inside and therefore not taen anything seriously.
Then today dd was screaming and screaming because she couldn't poo. (this is gross) I could see it distending the exit but it was like a rock and stuck. So after agitating for half an hour and dd pushing and howling in pain the nurse finally fetches a doctor and Doctor moron walks in. I say 'doctor what can we do, she's in agony' but she proceeded to ask, ina sickly voice, how dd's night had been, how much milk she had drunk etc etc, ignoring my baby in pain and me asking her to do aomething about it.So I grabbed DD from DH lay her on the bed and removed her nappy so everyone could see the stuck poo. Finally they did something and got it out.
It was very traumatic and this consultant is on all weekend. She even wanted us to go home despite dd's own consultant wanting her in cos her blood pressure is dangerously high from the stroids and needs 4 hourly obs. Oh, can't you pop home and keep coming back she trilled? Not 10 miles on a bloody bus I reply, we don't own a car.
I'm still seething.

[EscapeFrom]

God how awful for you!

You are not being unreasonable at all.

I find it quite useful, especially with nurses, to fix them with a beady eye, drop your voice, and say "If you would stop patronising me long enough to listen to the words I am using, you would already know "

[gess]

I've been reading a lot about assuming competence at the moment. Seems like the doctor could do with reading some of it.
Is she the only person on this w/e?

[pagwatch]

Oh please - just for me - punch!
They really do believe we push our brains out just after the placenta don't they ( OK not all of course but I always meet the prats with the god complexes!)
Grit teeth and tell them they are being patronising and not listening and if they can remember that your child is their patient and you are your child guardian they may be able to recall that your imput is not an add on YOU are responsible for her health and they must assist you in making the correct decisions for her...and then punch!
My DD nearly died ( not exaggerating) when I had to literally carry her around the ward looking for somone to treat her because the farkin Doctor who looked at her was so intent on checking her records and lecturing me beacause she was not vaccinated.
Emergency lumbar puncture,isolation, anti biotics, drips etc and two days later she pulled through thank god - but the god complex nearly killed her. You have to be focussed and strong. Good luck with this and i really hope she feels better soon

[Nat1H]

Contact PALS. Every hospital should have this. Apparently, if a compliant is made to PALS, then things get done, and quickly. (and this is inside information from a nurse in the family)
Good Luck and hope DD is feeling better soon.