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Please tell me about your older child/teenager with AS?

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Blossomhill · 07/09/2007 18:00

Just be nice to hear how they are getting on. My dd is 8. Thanks x

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needmorecoffee · 07/09/2007 18:40

my ds is 14 and way better than he used to be. He used to run away if he saw a car/dog/person. Not tolerate poeple in the house, sit hand flapping and pull his t-shirt over his head and rock back and forewards and never want toleave the house plus cause havoc if he had too.
So at 7 I took him out of school cos it was a nightmare. And over the last 7 years he has improved hugely. He still doesn't like going out much, still complains at sounds poeple make (yet taps and hums and fiddles) but last year he went back to school, all his own decision and he's coping well. He's a polite young man and thoughful and while there are still oddities in his behaviour, on the whole, life is a lot easier than it was 7 years ago.

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Blandmum · 07/09/2007 18:43

Working with a a boy with HF autism. He is a treasure, and now is begining to have friends in RL as well as on the internet. He is 17 and is well on his way to a top flight uni. He has an exceptional mind (sorry, I know it is a cliche), works totally unsupported in school and had developed a cracking sense of humour.

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Blossomhill · 07/09/2007 18:50

Thanks needmorecoffee and mb. It's nice to think that as dd gets older things will improve Great news about your ds nmc. Sounds like he is doing really well!

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Blandmum · 07/09/2007 18:53

wouldn't want to paint it as all roses, mind, this boy went through some really tough times during his early teens. he is doing very well now though

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Blossomhill · 07/09/2007 19:15

mb ~ no worries I am not disillusioning myself iykwim Dd will grow into an adult with Aspergers. I just hope things get easier for her

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Christie · 07/09/2007 20:12

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needmorecoffee · 08/09/2007 13:43

Blossom, there are still days when he annoys me, like if I need a hand shopping - he refuses to leave the house and if I'm talking on the phone he complains non-stop.
But some of his behaviour is normal 14 yo boy too - fear of water and soap for starters
Not having had a non-aspergers teenage boy its hard to know what is 'normal'. There are days when I wishhe went out with his mates (he has mates at school apparently but isn't interested in ever seeing them outside) but then I'm also glad he's inside on the computer and isn't mugging old ladies and taking drugs. We live in a very rough area.
But I remember back to his younger days when I was ind despair.

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Blossomhill · 08/09/2007 13:56

Hi Christie ~ thanks for that. really lovely to hear. I can imagine you had a lump in your throat! I guess the hardest thing for me is that in lots of ways my dd is very able. It's emotionally that she finds things hard.
nmc ~ I can totally relate to that. I don't want dd to be hanging around on street corners etc