Any advice on doing the'the pants thing'?

[magsi]

Hi folks

We are still frantically trying to toilet train our ds1 (5.5 with hemiplegia). He does sit on the loo and wee, but it is never a full one, just what he has at the time. He will not go of his own accord. We had a yearly appointment with his paed this week who examined ds1 and said he didn't think it was anything physical (although I often wonder about the sensation he feels). He suggested trying pants in the holidays. I had thought of this, but havn't done it yet. He is always reluctant to use the loo and has to be picked up and plonked on it. This is not distressing for him at all, I just think he is being lazy sometimes and using the nappy because 'its on'. He is in a split placement at school at the moment with 2 days at ms and 3 at sn but from September, he is going full-time at sn with a 1:1 all day. I would dearly love to sort this out in the summer hols. I will probably do the obvious and start in the garden. We are off to wollworths at the weekend for some pat or lightening Mcqueen pants and I am trying to get him excited about it. (beginning to regret those cream carpets!!!).

Anyone got any tips apart from get the Vanish in ?

[Pixel]

Hi Magsi, your ds sounds very like mine in that it wouldn't occur to him to go to the toilet by himself either but he will go if I take him and sit him on there. He is now fairly reliable (age 7) as long as he has plenty of opportunities to 'go'. We've just been away for a week and I seem to have spent most of my time waiting around in toilet cubicles (he's non-verbal so a lot of it is guesswork) BUT he did only wet himself twice all week so not too bad! It's taken a long time to get to this stage with lots of 'two steps forward, two steps back' so don't get disheartened if it takes longer than you expect. Um, what tips? Well we started off with potties because ds doesn't climb stairs well and he's too heavy for me to carry. Also, don't spend too much on posh pants with logos. We did that at first but then you feel you have to get them clean after hideous poo 'accidents' which soon loses its charm! We now get plain white ones from Tesco (£1.50 for 5) so I don't feel too guilty about binning them if they are too awful. Having Daleks on his pants never influenced ds anyway!

Good Luck
btw some stuff in a spray called de-solv-it is really good for getting poo stains off cream carpet.

[magsi]

Pixel thanks for the reply

Our son is also non-verbal. He uses the Makaton sign for toilet (sometimes). It must be hard for them if you think about it, when they need the loo they have to find you and tell you, they can't just shout (I am picturing getting through an awful lot of undies right now). I have to take him every time aswell because he can't use one hand so taking his pants down will be hard. He is a bit wobbly aswell. Blimey, I am beginning to realise the huge task ds1 (and us) have ahead of us.
I can see I am going to have to visit good old Tesco's!

And now I'm off to buy some de-solv-it!!!

[onlyjoking9329]

i am sure school will help with toilet traing, when my twin girls started at SN school they worked with them on toileting they have lots of experience
we worked along side the school and they soon had it sorted.
after lots of practice with the girls we then toilet trained DS which was much easier as we had lots of hands on experience by then!