I'm really struggling. Can't stop crying.

[Imsuchamess]

DS is being assessed for ADHD and AS.
Dd has diagnosed autism and at 5 is still in nappies and still behind in speech.
Dd2 is nearly 3 a and has a speech delay I was offered speech therapy but declined as she seemed to be catching up.

Or so I though but friend whose DS is a year younger keeps posting videos of her DS talking better than my dd2. It's made me realise maybe she does need SALT.

My FB is full of friends bragging about how advanced their dc are. It's breaking my heart. I keep wondering did I do something wrong? Is that why all my dc have a speech delay?

It's so hurtful to see others boasting about their dc achievements when I am scared for my dc future.

[fairgame]

You haven't done anything wrong at all. The fact that you are supporting all your children and getting them the therapies, assessments and care they need just shows that you are doing everything right.

FB sucks. Fact. People are always on there bragging and they give no thought to how it makes us feel when our kids aren't doing as well as theirs. I get sick of people going on about great school reports and awards etc when DS never gets anything like that. I've reduced my FB friends and reduced the time i spend on it because it drives me mad.

Just because our kids are not doing as well as other kids doesn't mean that we are worse parents. Our kids are making progress in other ways that might not mean much to other families, but it means a lot to us. In June i took DS for his eye test and new glasses. Every year he gets the same frames but this year they don't do the frames anymore. DS picked the same style but in a different colour without any fuss or tantrums. This means absolutely nothing to most people but for me it's progress for DS!
You already said that DD2 is catching up, so that's great!

I think everyone on here will admit that they are scared for the future of our DCs but there is lots out there for them. Sometimes we might have to fight and strop to get them what they need but the fact that we do it just shows that we are doing our best for them!

You are not alone and you are doing the right thing for YOUR children. Nevermind what everyone else does just concentrate on the achievements that your dc are making however big or small.

[autumnsmum]

Op hugs I have to say fb does have some brilliant sn groups , if someone is really trying block them , I know how hard it can be when people brag

[iloveithere]

You are not doing anything wrong!
All children are different, you know that deep down. Others can be proud of their children, it doesn't mean they think any less of you and your family.

I would say, though, take all the therapies you are offered. If your child doesn't need it, they will quickly sign you off. I know its tempting to think (hope) your child doesn't need extra help for things like SALT, but if it's being offered it will be because someone has seen a need.

Personally, I accept, and even ask, for anything going, if anything has even a tiny chance of helping my DS I want to give it a try.

[Imsuchamess]

Thanks all I feel a bit better now.

[2old2beamum]

Glad you feel you can post here, very little bragging as we are all in the same boat. But we are very proud of our children.

Agree with advice grab all the help you are offered and good luck.