Anyone else feeling sick at the thought of the new school year??? I've posted about this before ......
My DS is 9 and is high functioning ASD. He is just about to start year 5. His school is 'high achieving' and I feel that they just tolerate him, they don't really want him.
The last two years have been awful. His anxiety levels have reached breaking point, mainly due to the pressure put on him by school. Their attitude is 'we will not treat him as if he's any different' - but he is!!!ive pointed out that sometimes the things they ask of him is like asking someone in a wheelchair to take part in a running race - but they just look at me as if I've grown a second head.
He's been at this school since he was four, infants wasn't too bad but juniors has been hell. He's been split from the few friends he has, he never gets invited to friends houses anymore, no party invitations, no sleep overs. He's never been chosen to do anything - athletics team, football, etc he said he didn't feel anyone would notice if he wasn't there. I've told the school all of this, but they won't bend - our way or nothing. Just before the end of term, there was an awards afternoon. I didn't go as I knew he wouldn't get anything. Of course he didn't. But another parent phoned me 25 minutes before the end of school to say DS was outside the school gates. They'd let the whole year out early including DS even though they knew I wasn't there. I hurried to school, he was crying as he didn't get any awards again and he also had a black eye - just an accident but no explanation from school. Obviously I spoke to school, told them exactly what I thought - that they didn't want him etc but just nothing.FFS:(
He's a bright boy, academically doing well, but at what cost? He's been so stressed he's been rolling about on the floor screaming. Some days I've struggled to get him into school at all. I've thought about medicating - really?? Just to cope with school?? It's not just him it effects, it's the whole house, we're all at breaking point. Sometimes I do his homework just to get some peace. I've told school that too - that it's my work they're marking!!
It's been great over the summer hols. He's been so happy, it's been like having my DS back again. I feel sick at the thought of school, again next week. I want to move him but DS and DH think he should stay put. But two more years of this
I've also got a dd aged 5. She is nt. She started last year, very bright confident girl. Absolutely hated the school. I've managed to move her and she is so much happier but there's no space for DS - no sure of how I move him with a statement anyway??
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Peppapigisnotmyname · 26/08/2014 09:40
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