was sure where to put this but here goes and sorry if its long...
I feel really bad for saying this but I think DS2 has been purposely hurting DS3.
A bit of background; Ds2 is 7 with mild/moderate ADHD, SPD and is currently very emotionally wobbly (cant think of how to describe it, he's a lovely funny little boy but recently he's been having outbursts where he will be shouting and screaming in my face and crying if he has done something wrong AND even at times when he hasn't) He struggles with emotions at times.
DS3 is 5 has a rare genetic disorder, GDD (at about 2yrs old), non verbal, limited signing and SPD.
Anyway, today my sensible DS1 was at a friends house to play, he would usually watch DS3 while I do a couple of chores, run to loo etc but I asked DS2 to instead within minutes of me leaving the room DS3 was in tears I come running back in asked what had happened and got a 'nothing' reply from DS2 no marks on DS3 so thought maybe he was just being a bit clingy. Next time it happened again this time DS3 was holding his head but no marks again nothing had apparently happened (but I wasn't overly convinced).
DS3 can be a bit clumsy at times.
Later in the evening DS1 was home, I nipped into kitchen to eat a sandwich in peace & DS1 nipped off to toilet leaving DS2 watching DS3. From the kitchen I heard screaming and DS3 crying again I ran in DS1 got there a few seconds before me, I asked what happened, DS2 at first said nothing (I wasn't convinced so pushed for an answer), then he said DS3 fell off the sofa, then changed it to he carried DS3 off of the sofa BUT Ds1 said he saw him pinning DS3 to the floor in a wrestler type hold, body on body, if that makes sense. He got up just as I got to the room so I didn't see.
DS3 wouldn't be able to tell me if he hurt himself or had an accident either.
I hate myself for thinking this but When I thought about it I thought maybe he is hurting DS3 on purpose/intentionally? He has pushed him over/hit him before but I put it down to usual brother roughness. But maybe it isn't.
I spoke to him when I tucked him in for bed and asked him IF he had hurt his brother and he just laid there smiling at me
Do you think i'm being OTT about this?
DH said we will chat to him tomorrow when he's home from work but I feel so bad for even thinking the worst of him.
Any advice is appreciated x
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imawigglyworm · 19/08/2014 22:26
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