Hi everyone
I'm finding it hard with DS 4, who's severely language delayed and ASD.
I don't know if the reason DS is like this because he's spoilt, or if this may be a routine issue resulting from his ASD, or the fact that his language is delayed and therefore he can't understand.
With DS, every time we go out, I don't need to prep him. If his going to a new place, it doesn't bother him, if we take the usual bus route home and it diverts, this does not faze him, I took him to nursery and when taking him there and realising that there was no nursery, we went back home, he didn't care. He can be going to nursery for 2 years and next I take him to a complete nursery, without no preparation, he does not even flinch. We can be sleeping over at someone's house, who he doesn't even know or seen before and yet he will be fine.
But...
But.
When he sees that KFC, sweet shops, supermarkets etc, any fast food chain. Hell breaks loose.
We went somewhere today and he saw the cinema, which he has been before, but very long ago. Anyway, he was throwing a big tantrum as he wanted to watch a certain film in the cinema.I just wanted to die on the spot with all those glares.
Even if we go to a new place/ route and he sees that KFC, sweet shops etc. He still cries if we do not go there.
I thought that the reason he was like this was because he felt like his routine has been disturbed.
So I did the usual timetables consistently fore four months. It did not work, all DS did was point out the resemblance from the pictures, I.e. If he saw TESCO he would look at the TESCO, point to the picture and then look at me. He was basically showing me the places rather realising it was a routine.
Also, there have been two occasions that I had to change our routine and didn't put this on the time table and of course it didn't faze DS.
Even when we go out shopping, he starts crying if I don't buy him what he wants.
The issue is, I do most of the time give in to DS needs. Which needs to change, I just find his tantrums hard to deal with.
With DS though distractions do work, but sometimes I cannot be bothered to distract him as I'm just too upset.
The only thing that has worked is when... I went out with DS and I accidentally past the KFC, he obviously pointed and cried to go into KFC. So what I did is that I used a sign that he understood, I think I must did a "book" sign which he always uses for library. So when I did this he signed back and pointed to the library which was across the road. His tantrum instantly stopped.
I have no idea why that worked.
This cannot continue, I don't know if the reason his like this is because of routine or the lack of understanding.
I'm just at breaking point about his behaviour.
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adrianna22 · 01/08/2014 22:38
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