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at my wits end with grumpy DS

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fairgame · 01/08/2014 15:05

DS is 9 and has ASD. He is incredibly grumpy on a daily basis and this is not a new thing.

He huffs and puffs around the house, chuntering away to himself. If i ask him what is wrong he tells me to leave him alone. He is the same if we go out somewhere. He walks around with his bottom lip out, refusing to hold hands and just generally being a PITA.
I'm sick of his attitude and its also causing problems with DP. I take DS on loads of days out, he has loads of nice things to do (a lot more then other kids we know) and he just seems to be eternally ungrateful. DP thinks i do too much with DS and says he takes it all for granted, he thinks i should do a lot less.

I don't expect DS to be happy all the time but this constant grumpiness is getting me down.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is is just a very long phase? Should i just lock myself in a darkened room until ds leaves home my sanity returns?

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Kleinzeit · 01/08/2014 15:19

Yes, my DS does a lot of this. It’s part of the venting/de-stressing thing. It can’t be helped and I try to let him get on with it and just ignore it as much as possible (if only!) He gets especially gitty and rude if things don’t go quite as expected, or if we’re in a hurry, or if we’re looking for somewhere to eat, or if we have to wait in a queue. And he can’t just stay quiet and keep it to himself. Which can make going out for the day stressful for the rest of us. Though at least he usually cheers up as soon as things start going better.

I don’t expect DS to be grateful. In fact my DS doesn’t like doing too many different things, especially new things or things that break his usual routine. It makes him stressed and grumpy even if he enjoys doing them as well (if you see what I mean) So by the end of Nice Day Out I’m usually ready to join you in that locked room!

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fairgame · 01/08/2014 15:30

At least i know i'm not alone!
It's so frustrating, he doesn't like being in all day and he doesn't like going out. What the hell does he expect me to do?

I've got another 4.5 weeks of this plus a holiday at center parcs with DP and DS [sobs]
DS doesn't want to come because he says DP shouts at him all the time. DP says DS needs to be disciplined. I think i'll take plenty of Wine and leave them to it. DP doesn't live with us as his job at the other end of the country so he's not as used to DS's little 'quirks'.

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PolterGoose · 01/08/2014 16:02

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fairgame · 01/08/2014 16:20

Thanks Polter i will have a look at that book and will try reviewing the day. Everyday seems to be the worse day of his life unless we're at Legoland Grin

Maybe i need to get him to write down what the worst day of his life might be like and if the day hasn't gone how he has written it then it can't possibly be the worst day iyswim.

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