DS1 has a new teacher, likely to only be with them this year. The pair of them didn't exactly hit it off... ds1 "he's the worst teacher I ever met, I wish he would just die".... teacher "i'm not here to be your friend i'm here to get you to learn"
yeeeeeeesss
anyway, we're becoming increasingly aware that this man really has NO understanding of autism at all. Not only that but he is dismissive of our opinions, and those of the behavioural specialist we're paying right now to help us and the head teacher.
I have to say at this point that I have never. EVER. had a problem with any of his previous teachers, he is now in yr 4. he's at a very small montessori mainstream school, which up til now has suited him fairly well although over the last year he has found it stressful and has not made much progress. We're about to start the statementing process though!
He has had teachers in the past who have very much needed to learn what he is like, but all of them have been willing to do this, to find out what makes him tick and to put their very best in.
This teacher just doesn't seem to want to do that.
we had parents evening the other night and it was kind of soul destroying.
all we heard was basically ds1 can't/won't do pretty much anything. and that the teacher can't do anything about it because we (dp and I) won't let him, we just want ds1 to be happy.
this is because we asked him, nicely, to stop putting so much pressure on ds1 with regard to writing because he was getting soooo stressed over it. this was backed up by the head and the BS.
the BS also gave him several strategies to use in class with DS1 and stressed that these needed to be used for at least 6 weeks before we decided whether or not they were working. He gave them 2 days. max.
apparently the BS hasn't told him anything he couldn't look up online
we also told him some things that helped ds1 last year with his maths work and the teacher basically just said no, he won't do that because he ds1 won't like it. UM,,. it worked last year!
um, what else? oh yes apparently DS1 "plays up" in class so he can be centre of attention
it's just SO frustrating. I don't really want to move schools, but I think that too much more of this is potentially going to be quite damaging for DS1. but i keep telling mtselg it's only for htis year and next year could be better.. then again a year is a long time!
so has anyone got any strategies for dealing with someone who is so pig-headed and unwilling to listen to people who might just know better? we've requested a meeting with the head teacher, but ultimately ds1 is going to be stuck in a class with this guy every day and with the best will in the world we aren't going to change how he views him....
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bundaberg · 22/10/2013 22:41
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