sorry more wuestions, school this time

[WellKnownMemorablePeachyClair]

I will run out of questions soon!

have a target setting meeting today, which the Head insists on attending- they think its just me and three of them (lynching?) but Dh is coming also.

Now, if they refuse to accpet DX I pull sam out from that moment. However, assuming they accpet it what do I ask for? he currently is on school action and they just tell me to do all these hours of extra work that i justc an't fit in, not with three kids, BIBIC and Dh working nights. Tried, can't. So waht happens is targets set, ignored (she only signs them when a specialist coiming in) then more set. I did keep the intense homework up for a bit, but she never bothered to return the books- submit weekly she said, then would hold on to it for 6 weeks!

Any ideas? What shoul I ask for? I accept Sams behaviour relatively easy at school (sits quietly at back of class) but he isn't learning (couldn't write own name yesterday) and we get the explosions at home, hardly surprisinga she works so hard to be / appear 'normal' at school.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

The long and short of it is that your DS needs a Statement, not school action or school action plus because he is basically being failed on it.

If school do not accept that DS needs a statement I would look for another school for DS to attend (with a Statement in place as well) as a matter of course.

From your previous writings it is clear that this sorry lot of a school do not want to work with you or to have your son attend there.

Your DS is bottling up the frustrations of the day by trying to be "normal" at school , small wonder therefore he explodes when he gets home.

You may want to talk with IPSEA for their suggestions re this afternoon if you have not already done so.

Best of luck, go get 'em this arvo!!!.

[Tiggiwinkle]

I would personally look for another school Peachy-their attitude does not bode well for the future.
My DS is AS and his school were very reluctant to accept that he could be, but did accept it once we had the official DX (although still saying he was not like the "other autistic children" in the school! This is over a year ago, and I think they have now observed for themselves that he very definitely is AS. But if your DS is not learning, then as ATM says, he should definitely have a statement. IPSEA is your best bet for advice.

[WellKnownMemorablePeachyClair]

Tiggi, I would love another school but the only alternative would mean a vey complex mrning for us, and I would have to give up Uni and we are dependant on the small amount of money we get from this.

OK, meeting: only had ten inutes as was in the palce of a normal parent consultation. I noticed Teacher kept her mouth alrgely shut and SENCO did most of the talking; whenever Teacher did say anything she was over ruled by SENCO (who is his class teacher next year) which was hard not to laugh at. Head kept fialry quiet.

They gave us a list of words for him to learn- at which point Dh interrupted and suggested (quite strongly) that we start with writing his name..... SENCO and Head agreed! PMSL

They are also reserving a place in the quite competitive recorder group for him next year, which is good as he is desperate to learn that.

At the end the Head asked to see Dh outside and it transpired Sam had thrown a stone at another child and cut his head today , because another child 'told him too'- and do you think he can get why it was wrong? oh no. So we are waiting to see if said child complaind before they decide on action.