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Quick update for anyone who remembers me

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DS starts his new school on Monday. They are hoping by Christmas he will be there majority of the time!

It been a long hard slog and 4 years of isolation but hopefully slowly my family and I can rebuild our lives.

No tribunal needed from special school to independent specialist placement.

Thankyou for not lurking anymore Messmonster and thanks magso.

Thanks bialy, they spent most of the day in the house on DSs terms, getting to know him, however they managed to take him for a short drive later in the afternoon.

They have come today and he's went out on another drive. The peace is fab, just hope he's not pushed too quick and it backfires but here's to staying positive about it all.

bialystockandbloom Mon 07-Oct-13 20:48:03

How did the first day go dev?

magso Mon 07-Oct-13 12:17:13

Just posting to say I hope the new school go well and ds settles better than you expect. I am sure there will be some difficult moments whist adjusting, so hang on in there minidev!

messmonster Mon 07-Oct-13 11:12:24

I lurk on this board a lot but rarely post because I don't feel I have the expertise to help anyone. I've read some of your previous threads and despaired for you to be in the position you've been in so I couldn't not de-lurk to say how happy I am for you and to say how much I hope this is the start of a successful new chapter for your family. Lots of cake and wine for you!

Oops, appointment with solicitor is not until next month, was originally to hurry the LA into either saying yes or tribunal to inde school, however now I have the outcome I may as well utilise the app efficiently haha

Thanks Maria and zzzzz, I have an appointment with CAF solicitor the least I want them to do is put in letters of complaint. They have messed so many lives in one family here not to mention targeting any more families. I won't allow it, some how if I find out who there next target is I'm going to help. Like I said I hope they don't think they have seen the last of me wink

Strangely enough, I nearly post a few weeks ago, I wrote a letter in response to the peads letter. She is new and only met dS once and he spent the full hour in the toilet hmm anyway she has passed my letter over to NHS complaints dept asking them to make it a complaint. If she was trying to call my bluff I went ahead and agreed to making it a complaint. I have since been interviewed and awaiting outcome.

Lol Ripping, I'm that stressed I managed to slot in another session to take it out on cake

zzzzz Sun 06-Oct-13 20:44:07

*You know that complaint? Save it for a bit, wait till he's nicely settled and doing well in the new place... they'll openly defend their actions to the hilt either way, but his success elsewhere may dent their self belief a little. And revenge is a dish best eaten cold...

(a nice pic of him happily engaged in learning will pop their internal excuses very nicely: mini-dev was just too difficult to help, nothing pleases that deviantenigma, some families bring it on themselves, yadda yadda)*

This is good advice. But when the time comes dev let them know exactly where they went wrong.

MariaBoredOfLurking Sun 06-Oct-13 15:31:34

Ooooooh!

grin
That's amazing!

Bet you're cr***ing yourself though. All this time holding it together, all this time struggling through unaided. And now, finally, something that seems like it could actually work.

You know that complaint? Save it for a bit, wait till he's nicely settled and doing well in the new place... they'll openly defend their actions to the hilt either way, but his success elsewhere may dent their self belief a little. And revenge is a dish best eaten cold...

(a nice pic of him happily engaged in learning will pop their internal excuses very nicely: mini-dev was just too difficult to help, nothing pleases that deviantenigma, some families bring it on themselves, yadda yadda)

RippingYarns Sun 06-Oct-13 10:34:25

Only just seen this here as well, dev, brilliant news!

Get tucked into that cake, you can work it off on another DVD later :-D

chocnomore Sun 06-Oct-13 10:31:08

good luck. I hope it goes well smile

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Sun 06-Oct-13 10:25:34

Congratulations!

I'm sure you've been 110% instrumental in this progress so well done.

sweetteamum Sun 06-Oct-13 10:25:27

Well done to you and your ds. I hope his first day goes well. I'm sure you'll be nervous. But in time it'll be worth all this stress you've had to go through.

Ineedmorepatience Sun 06-Oct-13 10:20:57

Yay!! Hope everything goes well and he settles in ok smile

streakybacon Sun 06-Oct-13 09:08:05

Well done and good luck. I hope it all goes well for ds and he settles soon.

namechangeregular Sun 06-Oct-13 09:01:08

I'm sure he'll get to like it in time - it will be so much better for him than the last place. How typical that the deputy head walked out when you expressed your views - I have had similar responses and even threats after complaining. Stick with it as, although it's too late for your ds, it may make a difference for other children in the future.
My ds is now at a specialist school and the difference in approach is incredible We had some ups and downs to start with but now can see the progress he's making.
It's a new start for you too and I hope it all goes well.

Wow, thanks everyone.

He doesn't know yet, he will just get all anxious about it so we are just going to tell him (if he asks) that we are having visitors. The school he's going to tell all the kids it's not school and they don't do work.

Still dreading it, I hope it doesn't take him forever to like it. After all it's a personalised curriculum in his own classroom with minimum interaction with peers.

I had his annual review with his old school on Friday. I let the heads know how much the last 7 year has affected my family as a whole, how we had missed out on siblings childhoods with dealing with one child and how they themselves missed out due to his needs and that something should of been done earlier. The deputy didn't like it and left. If they think that's the last of me they are wrong!! Although hopefully things will be sorted for DS they can't treat parents like this so I am going to make official letters of complaint.

AgnesDiPesto Sun 06-Oct-13 06:59:10

brilliant news dev, and good to have you back

bochead Sun 06-Oct-13 05:53:58

honking for ya!

Do let us know how he gets on. I love success stories, as they help keep me sane on down days.

zzzzz Sat 05-Oct-13 23:17:48

Honk honk honk honk honk

That is wonderful news.

Yay! grin

Handywoman Sat 05-Oct-13 23:12:38

that's fab news dev thanks best of luck for this new chapter

namechangeregular Sat 05-Oct-13 23:08:51

That's great smile. How does ds feel about it?

lougle Sat 05-Oct-13 22:38:32

Oh my word - that is wonderful news!

Be kind to yourself as you all adjust.

NoHaudinMaWheest Sat 05-Oct-13 22:10:57

Fantastic news. I hope all goes well especially the tricky beginning.

ouryve Sat 05-Oct-13 21:31:01

I was actually thinking about you, the other day. That's great news!

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