Really feeble question how do I put off outreach worker

[autumnsmum]

Hi everyone totally feeble plea .dd2 started at ss this week and I am really happy .we have an outreach worker from local children's centre ho is supposed to come and help us potty train dd2 trouble is she makes me feel hopeless she is supposed to be coming tomorrow would I be being unfair to put her off ? Also ss have said they will start helping to toilet train dd2

[TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission]

now sounds a perfect time to say thank you very much for all your help but school have a plan and you don't want to confuse dd2 by using 2 different strategies for toilet training. My dd3's ss got her dry at school reasonably quickly, it took a while longer for her to get it at home though but we got there eventually

[autumnsmum]

Thanks ninja this is going to sound like a whine but I have really low self esteem and she keeps asking why I haven't started potty training yet I don't think dd2 is ready and starting ss is stressful enough

[TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission]

can you ring the childrens centre and just leave her a message so you don't have to talk to her? You're dd2's mum, you know when she's ready better than anyone is she enjoying school?

[autumnsmum]

School is going pretty well thanks she has been chatting to the bus escorts which is amazing

[TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission]

that's great must be such a relief

[autumnsmum]

That's fine she is going to be four in a fortnight

[autumnsmum]

Thank you so much both of you her ss are being marvellous and said they expect their early years children to be in nappies

[ouryve]

Just tell her plainly that, when you think that your DD is ready to lose the nappies, IF you feel you need her help, you will contact her.

[autumnsmum]

Thanks everyone I have put her off and am considering disengaging from the whole outreach situation .I am very shy and find home visits difficult and dd2 is at a ss which is beyond wonderful

[BeeMom]

If you recall - Bee trained within the last month, and she will be 8 next month.

Perhaps almost 4 is late for an average child, but Autumn isn't average, and having strategies coming at her from 2 different sides is likely to set her further back, not speed up the process.

Advise the outreach worker that the ss has it under control, and talk with the ss about the strategies they are using, so they can be duplicated at home. If she is ready, you can do it - if she is not, not amount of hassle is going to make it happen.

[autumnsmum]

Thank you so much Beemom I totally agree with you as you may know my dd2 also has hyper mobility and I will deal with toilet training when I am ready .Also common sense dictates that when a child is going through a huge change like starting a new school doesn't need added stress.