Hi there,
I am really worried that there is something wrong with my dd. She is just over 4 and for a while now she has exhibited some very controlling, disruptive and aggressive behaviours which I am finding increasingly difficult to deal with. I keep trying to accept advice from family\friends\teachers etc that 'it's a phase', 'she'll grow out of it', 'it's just what kids do', but I just can't feel reassured. It just all feels wrong.
She tries to control everything, from food to when and how she will (or will not) follow an instruction. She wears me out with her energy, always climbing all over the furniture, giving me palpitations with precarious balancing acts. And she is aggressive. The temper tantrums are increasing in frequency, duration and violence. She now hits, scratches, bites, throws things, screams, pinches, and the other day she nutted me so hard in the face that I thought she had broken my nose. Sometimes she is violent towards herself (scratching or hitting her own face or pinching her arms). I am not sure she is aware that she responds like this - it seems reflexive rather than deliberate.
Her social skills are very poor - she can be uncooperative and unsociable. And there seem to be different sides to her that she presents to different audiences - at home she is loud, extrovert, over-confident, non-stop talking and verbally articulate, whereas at nursery or socially she can be timid, unconfident and 'young' for her age. She appears to be very bright but I think that it will go undeveloped if I don't do anything to help her. But I don't know what to do.
As I write this down, I feel so silly - I am not conveying effectively what it is really like, but I am worried sick and so so tired - I don't know how to handle her tantrums - or her controlling behaviours - and this in turn is causing a rift between dh and me. I feel like I am letting her down, especially when I end up losing my patience and shouting - this is not how I imagined I would be bringing her up - I wanted her to have happy memories!
Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone experienced anything similar? Or am I really worrying about nothing ?
I would really appreciate any help as to how to deal with the tantrums and violence especially. I have read about using natural supplements to calm her down but am not sure what or how much to give her - has anyone had any success?
Thanks for listening,
WMxx
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