i'm wondering (and have been for ages) about my DS's
DS1 gets very anxious about school, worries if he doesn't know the full 'plan' for the school day, copes much better since moving to secondary school, I assume due to the stricter rules and timetable. if however something upsets him at school, or they have a 'out of timetable' day where planned or unplanned the lessons change, he is like a mini tornado when he gets home! he will keep it all in at school, but meltdown at home, meaning younger siblings have to be kept away from him for fear of getting hurt/upset/yelled at, now I know all NT kids have their moments, but where do you draw the line and decide its more than that?
im scared to go doctors about it incase they laugh at me and tell me its 'normal' or worse still, my parenting have always thought its something more, but theres never been any problem but anxiety at school.... although, he's always had problems making friends/keeping friends, cant understand why they 'break the rules', isn't really interested in most stuff kids his age are, but will obsess over 1 topic, talking at people about it for hours (luckily his most recent obsession is technology based so seems to hold peers interest for a while)
other problems are will not eat at school (is a very picky eater anyway, if it looks strange,feels strange, smells strange it wont be eaten...hard to get a varied diet on such limited options), only wear certain clothes because they 'feel funny' has to be in charge/control of everything and everyone or totally looses his cool shock, I could go on...
on a plus note, hes very clever, great at maths, great at anything factual actually, but struggles with imagination and anything requiring opinion rather than fact, very responsible and grown up (other than when having a meltdown, when he can be reasoned with about as much as a 1 year old!) an all round lovely, funny kid most of the time (except during the almost daily meltdowns that only I seen to be capable of stopping, if im VERY lucky & catch it early, otherwise its only me who can handle damage limitation & know when the cost is clear & what will/wont set it off)
a few people recently have asked (without me saying anything) if he has aspergers, after spending a short time with him, which has now got me wondering if its not my imagination after all.
DS2 also has some behaviour issues (but only everywhere BUT school), which could be related to his epilepsy/meds, but are different to DS1's (other than the meltdowns, which is great fun when they go off at the same time! hmm ) DS2 seems to have some sensory issues - cant handle noise, crowds, lots going on at once, stubborn, refuses point blank to move if he doesn't want to/ doesn't get his own way, will melt down if forced to comply...and so on.
DD is completely different - chatty sociable, adaptable, confident, has her naughty moments like any DC but does not meltdown.
All brought up with same home life, rules, bounderys....so can it really be just my rubbish parenting?
I know mumsnetters aren't qualified to diagnose, but any opinions r welcomed, or anyone with similar experiences / advice / links that might be useful... anything really!
thanks in advance
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anyone elses DC good as gold at school, but has regular meltdowns at home / out and about?
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kats3 · 15/07/2013 14:09
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